(Quote) Albert-964084 said: Thanks for your answer. I do believe that people should be married and have a healthy relationship but ...
(Quote) Albert-964084 said: Thanks for your answer. I do believe that people should be married and have a healthy relationship but God didn't the same plan for everyone. I have wanted to be married w kids since my teens but it just didn't happen that way. Nothing is more pitiful than a 45 yo virgin, I'm here to live life w what God gave me. It doesn't mean that's all I want, I want marriage but if it doesn't happen, I won't be waiting around not to ever express love the way I choose even if my priest doesn't approve. It's not for everyone but being catholic isn't about listening to your priest but about listening to God through your heart.
Actually, God has the same plan for everyone--salvation--although the journey to salvation varies. Since mortal sin separates us from the love of God, I can say with 100% confidence that He isn't whispering to anyone's heart that premarital sex is really ok. Deep down, I think most people who rail against the Church's teaching on chastity really know this...We are called to chastity according to our state in life and as Jesus said so simply "if you love Me, you will keep my commandments." I pray that you will realize that a chaste man--even a 45 yo virgin--is far from "pitiful" and many women on here are hoping to find such a man!
I agree with the other ladies that I would not consider a man who is unrepentant about having premarital sex. I would, however, respond politely and tell him.