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Discussion related to living as a Catholic in the single state of life. As long as a topic is being discussed from the perspective of a single Catholic then it will be on-topic.

Tobias and Sarah's story is from the Book of Tobit, and his journey is guided by Saint Raphael.
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May 3rd 2013 new

(Quote) Carol-737878 said: Yes, Lisa, I suffer from anxiety as well. I keep praying for God's perfect peace to ...
(Quote) Carol-737878 said:

Yes, Lisa, I suffer from anxiety as well. I keep praying for God's perfect peace to flow over & through me. It's so hard to focus on the present moment & to not take a trip into the future--whether it be minutes or years into the future!!! I totally understand!

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I didn't even realize that I did, until now. I read Steve Carter's "Getting to Commitment" over the last two days. I always thought it was the guys that had the commitment problem, but it's me! I guess it's a good thing I am not a noob to dealing with personal demons.

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May 3rd 2013 new

Finding you match is something you will do if you want to. You must believe that. There are things that keep you from finding your match. You will not find your match until you get rid of the things that keep you from finding that person.

Sometimes what you must overcome is shyness. Sometimes you must stop thinking you are going to marry an educated person or a thin person. Perhaps what stops you from marrying is that you insist on marrying a Catholic. Perhaps the person must be rich, or 10 years younger than you. Perhaps you must find a virgin.

It is easy to want a wealthy person, especially if you are wealthy. You feel like you deserve it. Fine, your choice. Did you want to be happily married? How about putting all the other things aside and just find someone that makes you happy?

Maybe make you love them because they love you.

But, like I said, it is entirely up to you.

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May 3rd 2013 new

(Quote) Richard-15378 said: Are you still optimistic? .. I am trying to stay upbeat, but as more and more time passes, it is...
(Quote) Richard-15378 said:

Are you still optimistic? .. I am trying to stay upbeat, but as more and more time passes, it is increasingly difficult to retain that sense of hope ... How do you feel deep down in your heart? Still thinking it will happen, or starting to wear down and wonder if it is just a fantasy notion that will never come to be? .... How do you handle the possibility that there might not be anyone just for you in this whole wide world?

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Richard, I am realistic. Yes. he may be out there. Or he may not. My circumstances make it impossible for me to move from the Twin Cities. He will have to come to me, be a stepfather of several, and help with my dad. That's a pretty tall order even for the best of men. Any Saint Josephs out there? Oh, I forgot - he's taken! Well, in the meantime, an occasional dinner is nice and I'm happy to have a conversation. biggrin

It seems, though, since I've started dating, I come closer to the mark each time. Maybe I'm just more secure in who I am, what I'm about, and who I'm looking for. You listening, Mistah? wave

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May 3rd 2013 new

I've found my match several times. Problem was, he didn't find me.

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May 3rd 2013 new
(Quote) Lawrence-943343 said: Finding you match is something you will do if you want to. You must believe that. There are things that keep...
(Quote) Lawrence-943343 said:

Finding you match is something you will do if you want to. You must believe that. There are things that keep you from finding your match. You will not find your match until you get rid of the things that keep you from finding that person.



Sometimes what you must overcome is shyness. Sometimes you must stop thinking you are going to marry an educated person or a thin person. Perhaps what stops you from marrying is that you insist on marrying a Catholic. Perhaps the person must be rich, or 10 years younger than you. Perhaps you must find a virgin.



It is easy to want a wealthy person, especially if you are wealthy. You feel like you deserve it. Fine, your choice. Did you want to be happily married? How about putting all the other things aside and just find someone that makes you happy?



Maybe make you love them because they love you.



But, like I said, it is entirely up to you.





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Your insights are excellent Lawrence.
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May 3rd 2013 new

(Quote) Richard-15378 said: I hope you're right, Maria ... But I'm not getting any younger, so something bet...
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I hope you're right, Maria ... But I'm not getting any younger, so something better happen soon or I won't have much time left for this lucky lady ,,

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Hi Richard,
Put your faith in the Lord and you will find many blessings. HE is the only one in charge.

I know first hand that life can be hard but only the Lord knows why we need to face the certain trails in life. Don't worry about your age in numbers... You are as old as you feel.

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May 3rd 2013 new

(Quote) Marge-938695 said: I've found my match several times. Problem was, he didn't find me.
(Quote) Marge-938695 said:

I've found my match several times. Problem was, he didn't find me.

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highfive laughing laughing weeping weeping Oh how true, Marge....

Just gotta keep on trucking... crossfingers

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May 3rd 2013 new

(Quote) Richard-15378 said: I hope you're right, Maria ... But I'm not getting any younger, so something bet...
(Quote) Richard-15378 said:



I hope you're right, Maria ... But I'm not getting any younger, so something better happen soon or I won't have much time left for this lucky lady ,,

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Hi Richard,
Put your faith in the Lord and you will find many blessings. HE is the only one in charge.

I know first hand that life can be hard but only the Lord knows why we need to face the certain trails in life. Don't worry about your age in numbers... You are as old as you feel.

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May 3rd 2013 new

(Quote) ED-20630 said: A nice positive story. This is a copy of my response to a similar thread ...
(Quote) ED-20630 said:

A nice positive story.


This is a copy of my response to a similar thread a couple of months ago.

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I grew up near a very small town (population approximately 450) in eastern Washington state.


There were two Catholic couples, both with large families. Both families knew each other for many years since all of the kids had gone to the same schools... and because that's just the way it is in a small town. One lost his wife to cancer and the other lost her husband to another illness when they were in their late 50's, each after over 30 years of marriage. After some time, they started dating each other and were married in their early 60s. They have now been married to their new spouse for about 30 years, as they are now in their early 90s. They are neighbors of my parents and when I was home to see my parents over Christmas, I saw this couple out for a walk around the town. They have a great life together and seem very young for being in their 90s. I'm sure that when they each lost their respective spouses in their late 50s, they would have found it hard to imagine that they would marry again and have a second marriage as long as their first.


Don't give up!


Ed

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Ed That is a beautiful story. They had every reason to trust each other since they already knew each other and each other's families. I think people lack general trust in those they do not know in this day and age- but someone has to reach out so we must often go against the tide of non-trust in order to see if anything could happen.

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May 3rd 2013 new

(Quote) Andrea-850967 said: (Quote) Marian-83994 said: I would advise you or anyone who is su...
(Quote) Andrea-850967 said:

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I would advise you or anyone who is suffering to try to take joy in the smallest things. That is a good place to start. Feeling grateful in those small things is a start toward many areas where we can build something. It is a mental/emotional/spiritual exercise that I have to do right this minute because I am struggling right at this moment but it helps me to orient myself into the outlook where I function best and where God can help me and work with me best.

So giving thanks for the small stuff is a starting point and can sometimes turn our thoughts around toward a positive action. Sometimes it is us who has to do the reaching out toward another person.


Absolutely right. You always have so good insights, Marian. Thank you for that!!

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Thank you Andrea- Welcome back to the fora!

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