(Quote) Olivia-937761 said:
Thanks for the tip...what exactly is behind the dating scam? I am not getting it...why create a ...
(Quote) Olivia-937761 said:
Thanks for the tip...what exactly is behind the dating scam? I am not getting it...why create a fake profile?
on the whole scammers are out simply to get your money. They generally come on strong and all lovey dovey. They are hoping to catch someone vulnerable. They will create profiles that match your wants and usually supply some fantastic photos then coupled with the declarations of love etc, snag the vulnerable and then move on to the requests for money, or phone cards that cost like four hundred dollars. They sometimes create profiles of military personnel, or are widowers with small children etc. . .things that will pull on your heartstrings. If you balk at sending money they will come back trying to make you feel bad by saying things like I cant believe you would make a child suffer, I just dont know you at all, I can't believe you don't believe me etc. You usually can't actually talk with them on the site but have to move over to yahoo messenger or something else.
A big warning sign is that their language command is usually pretty poor and their statements will read badly. After you've seen a few, they use the same basic wording and premise, copy and pasted often. They will play off of things you say. . .like my first encounter with one, took my suggestion that his poor son living with an elderly uncle while he was deployed to Afghanistan had an appendicitis. A number of issues with this one. . .his grammar, his odd description of his rank, the fact that his child's care and welfare wasn't buttoned up, that he couldn't access his own funds, etc. Not to mention had his son actually had an appendicitis he would have been dead as long as it was taking to get him treated :-). He hinted at $1500 I didn't say anything, he came back a couple of days later and said they had gotten all but $350 of it could I help with that. I said absolutely, give me your son's full name, the name of the hospital, the name of the surgeon and I will call the billing office right now and take care of the balance. . Of course that was unacceptable, his uncle was very proud and I just needed to send the money straight to him. . . then came the accusations of making a child suffer etc. I told him this is how I can help, I can do it no other way. In the meantime my son had managed to get the guy to email him and he turned it in to their security officer. . .the guy was actually in South Africa. there is also a group that works in the states and the phone numbers might be Wisconsin and the emails routing from California but they are supposed to be in New York or overseas on a private contract - often to build bridges. At times the language will change enough that you are certain you are talking to more than one person and you probably are.
Some of these guys hit pretty hard and fast within a week or so and others can drag it out for several months, but it inevitably comes. They will also avoid answering any direct questions you put to them. and, often when you google their names or their emails you will find both online in other scam warnings and the letters are often verbatim.
With a fake profile they end up being pretty much invisible and can disappear only to reapper again under a similar but different name. So far since I started the online thing about five months ago, I have had about twenty scammers. Getting pretty good at noticing them right off the bat. From CM only one or two that I was suspicious of and they disappeared as quickly as they appeared.