(Quote) Joan-461057 said: This is somewhat to my point, which is that using "must be physically fit" is often just code for ...
(Quote) Joan-461057 said:
This is somewhat to my point, which is that using "must be physically fit" is often just code for wanting a Barbie doll figure, and the user is not actually referring to health. But having read some of these posts I'm revising my opinion. Perhaps most of the men using that criteria are referring to health condition and not just my cynical interpretation of that trait. I think I have been convinced by this Forum! Now I would like to hear a definition of exactly what constitutes "physically fit"? Percentage of muscle to fat? A height/weight ratio? Number of exercise sessions per week? Number of calories consumed daily? Exactly how would a woman know that she did or did not fit that category. Someone else on here said she does not exercise but is active outdoors. Is she "physically fit"?
Hi, Joan. All of our wants/requirements though are open to interpretation. For instance, a hunter, fisherman, skier, very devout Catholic can all be listed as preferences. How often does a man to hunt to be a hunter? What constitutes a dveout Catholic in the profile writer's opinion? Wanting a 'fit' man, are we asking for a guy who is a long distance runner, plays golf, skis, lifts weights or works construction all day? Each activity would lead toward a different physique and life style. That would be discussed by emotes and messages and getting to know each other.
We all can list what we are looking for in our profile, communicate with other members and, hopefully, find our one. I think any woman or man who believe themselves to be physically fit, could respond to someone's profile who wants that. There is risk of rejection for numerous reasons, sometimes not personal at all. Without risk there can be no gain. I don't feel we should be offended though for CM members stating what they want in a match--physical, spiritual, professional or interest-wise. Stating these things helps us find a spouse.
The difference online is one's preferences are written. In a restaurant or at work, one doesn't know what others want in a match. So really, we are all 'rejected' every day and we 'reject' every day based on what we seek. It is life; God made us all so different and our tastes are so different but that is a good thing.