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May 13th 2013 new

I ride aqbout 50- 80 miles weekly on my road bicycle and do when I am at a casino smoke a few and drink sevral alcoholic drinks when I am there. Viewing the various responds I am in the very small minorithy. It feels like a very close knit clan and not very welcome.

May 13th 2013 new

Hi, Maria, welcome to the forums. wave I looked at your profile and under ideal match you have a few things you are looking for in a man. What is the difference? If a guy is looking for someone physically fit that is his right also. We are all unique and attracted to different things in people. So, if you see something in someone's profile that you don't like....don't sweat it just move on:)

May 13th 2013 new
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May 13th 2013 new

(Quote) Fred-828727 said: I ride aqbout 50- 80 miles weekly on my road bicycle and do when I am at a casino smoke a few and ...
(Quote) Fred-828727 said:

I ride aqbout 50- 80 miles weekly on my road bicycle and do when I am at a casino smoke a few and drink sevral alcoholic drinks when I am there. Viewing the various responds I am in the very small minorithy. It feels like a very close knit clan and not very welcome.

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Fred: I can tell by your photo that you are very fit. There is nothing wrong with you having a drink when at the casino. You are relaxing and enjoying yourself.

May 13th 2013 new
When I did the :-( it was in response to your post, Fred. You certainly do seem fit and again, everyone's definition is different anyway.
May 13th 2013 new

(Quote) Mary-937794 said: Maria, I have seen the same thing in men's profiles (among other things) and these are men in ...
(Quote) Mary-937794 said:

Maria, I have seen the same thing in men's profiles (among other things) and these are men in their 50's-60's-70'... as I am much older than you. I get viewed by and view older men. It, quite honestly, bothered me too, at first, for a little while. I can understand if they want someone to go mountain climbing, surfing, hang gliding, bungee jumping or do other activities that require you to be "Physically Fit". If that is the reason for the "Physically Fit" requirement, then perhaps, I can understand. However, if it is just for "Attraction", well my dear Gentlemen, look in a mirror. I don't mean to be unkind. I believe they are, or could be, losing out on a possible relationship or friendship. I don't waste much energy on it anymore. I don't have that requirement. I only require a kind, good, honest man who is a gentleman. Good Luck and don't let it get to you. Their lose, Your gain.

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Well, as an active person, I insist on someone who is fit enough to do active things with. Someone who I can hike with, walk with, kayak with, and otherwise enjoy life with. I don't think it is wrong for a healthy man or a woman to seek someone capable of keeping up with him/her, whom he or she can experience life fully with. Hiking together is one of the things I want to be able to share with someone. To hold hands while we walk and take in God's creation...just pure joy.

Now, if the reasoning is solely for physical pleasure or the thought of parading a trophy spouse around, then no... the reason for finding someone who is "physically fit" is unacceptable. Still, there is good reason to seek a spouse who is similarly fit...if sharing activities together is something that is a requirement.

May 16th 2013 new
I agree with you with what you just posted Maria And it seems that that's a big thing always has been unfortunately . But I have noticed that people who have a long list tend to be single longer And it's funny that they use the word preference over picky It is what it is Unfortunately And then it's funny to use that God has not sent them anybody But yet they keep rejecting good people all the times Kind of makes me wonder you know. But you hang in there and I will be praying for you Maria God bless you
May 16th 2013 new

It does help the relationship when you can sharetime with the other person and doing physical activites would fall into that category.

May 16th 2013 new
Interesting thread and opinions. To be honest, if I had my druthers, my ideal mate would look like Josh Holloway (Sawyer on "LOST") - he's perfectly gorgeous - blonde hair, dimples, hard body, tall, killer smile - makes me tingle all over. I would fall at his feet. And I envy his wife who wakes up next to him every morning. sigh. But realistically, I have dated men of different shapes, sizes and heights and have been contented to spend time with them provided their personalities are pleasant, their hygiene good, and their manners and grammar proper. To me, it's the whole package that really matters when all is said and done. But I do want someone who is active in the sense that he will walk with me instead of sitting on the sofa with a beer in his hand watching sports and yelling at the t.v. I appreciate that men who state they want "physically fit" in their profiles are being honest and they aren't going to wrinkle their nose in disappointment when they see a rounder woman walk through the door when they were hoping for a slender gal. At least they are honest and upfront, and I respect that. This way, no one wastes their time. And, yes, men are visual beings - they are first attracted to our looks. I admit I got far more attention years ago when I had my dancer's body than I do now that I am 61 and more rounded out.
May 17th 2013 new
(quote) Fred-828727 said: I ride aqbout 50- 80 miles weekly on my road bicycle and do when I am at a casino smoke a few and drink sevral alcoholic drinks when I am there. Viewing the various responds I am in the very small minorithy. It feels like a very close knit clan and not very welcome.

Since I keep physically fit and know the importance of it, I would say that you could do better.  Smoking and drinking more than one or two is not being physically fit.  It's good to get some exercise outdoors on your bike but your diet also has to be healthy to be fit.
I've know avid cyclists who were overweight and not very healthy.
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