Well said. I think "that One" God has in mind for us will not need to be changed. I think a key ingredient is shared delight. Friendships are priceless - as is intimate companionship (think marriage). Time may lead friends into romance, and more time may lead them back to friendship as the romance phase brings out special considerations that test the breadth of a relationship. This is one place where restraining physical intimacy is so important; if you proceed to marriage, you have that beautiful sharing and ultimate gift of self yet to give; and if you slip from romance, you have not complicated the continued association. I have some very dear and long-time friends that I'm sure I would not have if we had given in to 'nature'. Perhaps, with your friend ... set aside thoughts of 'more' - turn it over to God - and continue to be a true friend. You have let her know that you consider her a possibility; that will remain in her mind, and if more is meant to be, God will germinate that seed and bring it to full bloom. Best of Luck, and Blessings.