(quote) Grace-250449 said: I find this topic really interesting because I was actually just reading about this type of situation in 'Christian Courtship in an Oversexed World: A Guide for Catholics' by Father Thomas G. Morrow. He recommends that Catholics 'Friendship Date' (no spoken expression of romantic interest and nothing more than chaste hugging) before moving onto courtship. The recommendation was to friendship date for 1 to 3 months, then decide whether you want to continue onto a courtship or if you let eachother go to pursue other relationships. His opinion is that after 3 months, you pretty much know whether you want to enter into an exclusive relationship with a person or not. However, if you do want to friendship date for longer than 3 months, as long as both parties in the relationship are in agreement, than there's nothing wrong with that. You just have to communicate with eachother in order to make sure you're both on the same track in your relationship. He writes quite a bit about the importantance of cultivating a friendship because after those first 2 years when the rush of romanitc love starts to fade, friendship is what keeps a relationship/marriage going.
I too would like to say welcome to the forum.
I think I'm going to have to look up this book, it sounds like a good way of rethinking my approach without compromising the principle.
Is this the sort of thing that fully makes sense when only one person has read the book? I read a book called I kissed dating goodbye
in college, which talked a lot about courtship over modern dating, but unless both people had read the book, it was difficult to explain all the concepts to the one who hadn't, without just handing over the book.