(quote) Angela-374523 said: Daniel, I think your approach is wise, and not foolish. I too believe that true love is friendship caught afire, so youre preaching the choir, in a manner of speaking. However, finding ones other half is just really, really hard. So, dont give up.
Communication is always very important in any relationship if you would like to start off as friends with the intention of possibly having the relationship turn into something romantic, communicate that early on. Dont just assume that a young lady will have the same idea as you about where the relationship is going or not going, and dont allow for misunderstanding to derail something that has the potential to turn into something wondrous and beautiful.
Taking too long in coming to the turning point may also result in disappointment. Usually it doesn't take very long to establish a friendship with someone - you either enjoy each other's company or you don't, and you either get along very well or you don't. I don't hold hands with my friends, but I would hold hands with a boyfriend. There is nothing unchaste about holding hands. Moving from friendship to courtship might be nerve-wracking, but it shouldn't be delayed indefinitely.
In some ways the statement "communication is important" seems like the biggest no brainer and shouldn't have to be said. However ever time it is said, I always find new insight or new twist on an old thought from why it had to be said. So thank you for the reminder. (As I'm typing that, I realizing the intonation could seem like it goes either way, so please know there is the utmost sincerity there). If communicating the ideas of a friendship leading chaste courtship scare them off, they weren't right anyway, so why wait too long?
I will admit a handful of bad experiences in life cause me to delay a little more under the idea if its right, the opportunity will still be there, but some friends remind me, though patience is a virtue, to not be afraid to step forward before all concerns have been answered.