A confession: all my feet are left feet!
Thanks for your response.
As to the need for an annulment if you don't have a person in mind to marry, let me tell you of another's experience, which makes sense to me.
A woman I know who is a convert, while taking RCIA instructions was informed by her Priest-Instructor, that the purpose of dating is marriage.....thus simple companionship, is not, I guess, called dating.....and that dating without annulment may not be the best way to operate. She was advised to apply for annulment in spite of the fact that she didn't see marriage in her future. I guess the point is to clear the way for the Holy Spirit to work in you and any male "friends" you might meet. Marriage, after all, is a vocation, and God does the vocalizing, if you will.
I think the application process, in itself, offers a sense of relief, and is probably an instrument of God's grace.
Best wishes on your return to God's Church. I beg of you not to let personalities negatively affect your return. Priests and fellow-parishioners are weak people trying to be God's children. If you feel less than comfortable, maybe you could try another Parish, and/or, ask God's help in easing the situation for you. I'm amking the intention as I type, to pray for your intentions, and your Happy Return in my night prayers.
God bless us all, Victoria....a beautiful woman with a beautiful name.
Hmmm, kkkkkkk, on second thought, your point is most persuasive, Ray.
Ok, when I get off work I will go out, buy a mirror, and I will report here what I see.
Ooops! Oh, no. I just dropped the new mirror!
It broke, Ray!!!
three thumbs John
To return this thread to its worthy topic, discernment, in regards to the validity of marriage, the process, the outcome, the review and then the aftermath... was most draining and exhaustive...
Afterwards, I recall resignation and having felt an emptiness. It was like the chains on my heart were cut off, all the burdens lifted, and the desire to immediately welcome the Holy Spirit to fill the emptiness was strong.
It saddens me that some dioceses charge for the process. It makes no sense to me. The people who want an annulment probably can't afford it if they have kids, paying catholic school tuition, etc.