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Nobody knew about me being on here excpet my confessor and one of my closest friends, that was until my first f2f. To make a long story short, my father understands me. But my mother thinks anything online is "unnatural" and says that I'm using "fake and artificial" means to rush what God wants. She thinks things ought to happen randomly as they did for her and her mom. I tell her that maybe back then, society was different and a random person you met on the street was more likely to share your values, but not anymore. Well, whether I meet the right woman here or offline, I know there's going to be a lot of disapproval from my mom anyway. We just have our disagreements.
My family knows and are fine with it, but naturally, there's some concern with long distance as it hasn't worked out yet, and is easiest if two people met, one had to go away for a time, and then is able to come back. However, God works in mysterious ways and things happen for a reason, so I'm hopeful. :)
The month after I joined this site my mother said, "you work too much, so I think you should get on Catholic Match or something like that," at which point I informed her of my membership. She is supportive...as long as I don't leave the East Coast, but we shall cross that bridge if/when I come to it. ;-)
My sibs are all younger (ages 12-20), and they think it's hysterical. They love to sit around and vote for different profiles...hence the reason that I now get on in the privacy of my own home. They would love me to move somewhere else so they can come visit.
My friends seem to think that this is a last resort and that I shouldn't get on unless I'm desperate. They then say that they can't understand why I'm not married yet, to which I respond "uh...hence the website."
My parents know, but that's because I introduced them to a lady that I met on this site. They don't specifically know its a dating site, but they do know about the forums, etc.. At the time of introducing them we were friends trying to figure out if we could make the distance work, and in the end decided that we couldn't.
I didn't make a specific point of saying anything because I honestly believe it's nobody's business. I'm almost 40, living on my own, and it's my credit card that's paying the subscription fee. I'm sure my parents would have concerns about distance because my younger brother lives on the other side of the country (I'm 45 mins away from my parents) and they are getting older, health is declining, and they do require more assistance. That would be my Mom's biggest concern.
Whatever anyone thinks doesn't really matter so much, as it is my life, and my relationships.
I was wondering CM members do your family know that you are on this site? Are they accepting of it? ...
I never thought much about it.
I'm more concerned that the women CM members know that I'm on this site,
and that they're accepting of it.