Second, this is reality. Hardly anybody
meets someone right away, and many meet no one at all. It doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. Honestly, I think in most cases it means the other sex is missing out on a good bargain.
Third, treat CM as a place to have discussions with people who (mostly) share your world view. Make friends -- guys AND gals. You can find enrichment in these friends and in the discussions you will have with them, and that is valuable.
If you keep your expectations low, CM is a lot of fun. If you think it's a Fairy Godmother who will deliver Prince Charming on a plate, your heart will ache as all of ours did before we learned the above lessons. WELCOME!