(quote) Angela-374523 said: As I have indicated, I have resigned myself to having a few
photos up so that folks have a sense of who they are talking to, as that seems
fair to me. Over time, I have also determined that the most active profiles have some photos. A photo-less profile is often a neglected one (i.e. the person signs on less often).
However, I dont think it is fair to message someone without
looking at their profile. What someone looks like is not more important than
what they have to say. They may have
set specific parameters regarding distance or age that you can only tell by
reading their profile.
Everyone on here
complains about how their time is wasted by people who dont respond to their
emotigrams. Well, maybe read the person's
profile first, and then you won't waste your time emotigramming someone from
Fiji who wants a local relationship.
As for the photos of trees and mountains and pets, I kind of
see both sides of the issue. If you have
bothered to put up photos at all, a random nature scene lets people know that
you like nature, but they will not likely write to you because theres a mountain
and a tree in a picture. Its sort of
like the lame profile line I like long walks on the beach.
Angela, you have articulated my feelings exactly, especially emotigramming someone in Fiji who wants a local relationship. BTW, Fiji has the most AMAZING snorkeling; I can't wait to go there and when I do I will post at least 50 photos of colorful fish on my CM profile (I am NOT kidding).
Marian's point is definitely a bone of contention for me as well. I was a professional portrait photographer for many years (while I was a SAHM raising 4 kids). With today's technology photos can be altered so dramatically that the person in the photo doesn't even resemble the "real thing". Believe you me, I have altered MANY photos and made MANY people look like movie stars (removed love handles, pot bellies, you name it). I could even make a short person look taller!!
Seriously, people's (particularly the male gender) obsession with the physical appearance of the opposite gender is at a very unhealthy level on this site (I haven't been on any other dating site, so I can't compare). One day (when I was supposed to be doing my taxes) I randomly viewed females profiles who had an "attractive" head shot photo and then viewed their other photos. 99.9% of the time these "attractive" female members had lots of "likes", especially the photos of them dressed or looking more seductive. Then I viewed photos of female members who had "less attractive" initial head shot photos and no seductive looking photos and they had no "likes" on their photos. Imagine that!?!
So ladies, if you want a man to "like" your photos and increase the chances of him contacting you, display photos of yourself in a seductive outfit, or at least a seductive pose (you know, the pouty face with the big lips). If you aren't comfortable with your physical appearance on the original photo, let me know. I can alter it so you look like a movie star and then you will have all kinds of messages/emotes.
Lastly, for those who don't know how to "pose" for the camera to get your "best features" I have some tips for you as well.
Of course men are visual creatures, but with the over abundance of porn (be it soft, like underwear ads, or hard) their minds have been distorted so badly that I don't have much hope for them, and this is coming from a mom of two twenty-something year old young men.