Over my lifetime, my appearance will change. My basic personality will not. I may learn a few new things and gain some perspective before everything is all said and done, but I will not all of the sudden start liking rap music or hate going to the library or whatever. My personality will be enduring. I wanted a gentleman to get to know the real me online before seeing me.
What did that get me on this site? "Men are visual". Really?? On a Catholic site, it doesnt matter what I say or how I behave, or what I believe, just show us what you look like so that you can be judged based upon appearances. Or no photos mean you must be hiding something ... like gross obesity or a really ugly face. Thanks. Youre a perfect specimen of a GQ cover model male yourself.
I have resigned myself to having a few photos up so that folks have a sense of who they are talking to, but I would rather have a gentleman hear what I am saying than just look at me while I am saying something.
Yes, men are romantically visual. We are not only just visual, but that is a component, because God made us that way. And that is more important and holy than you think. God gave us our bodies as a gift. To not put up photos is to hide part of who you are, the gift that God made you to be, body and spirit together! It's the wrong way to combat the evil of men only wanting your body.
Women are definitely more romantically emotional, but also touch is important too- and that comes through the body. We cannot love without our bodies. And just because Vogue is too stupid and conceited to think you are not beautiful enough to be on their cover does not mean that a man, the man God leads to you, thinks otherwise. Yes, bodies get older and less "attractive" according to the world. That does not mean that a man is going to find your body less attractive or beautiful as you two grow in love. If he truly is a holy man he will love you body, mind and spirit, not just your mind or spirit. Regardless of what the world thinks, you will be the most beautiful woman in his world, body and spirit as long as you are together.
Yes some men get hung up only on photos. That is wrong. But please don't think that your body is unnecessary to understand who you "really are."
Peace in Christ,