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I find any blanket statements in the profile as to what a man demands, expects, or will tolerate are an immediate "turn off".
Sorry to disagree, but on the secular sites, some blanket statements may be the only way to weed out what you do not want. I don't know anyone who enjoys having their time wasted corresponding with someone who is looking for something very different than what they are looking for.
I have found that those who browse a lot and send a lot of random communications on secular sites are almost always exclusively the hook-up seekers. You look at their profile after they have sent you a message, and they are pretty up-front about what they want, and it is not the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony in a Catholic Church.
A dating profile is no place for false advertising and no place for getting suckered into buying something that you don't believe in. Having said that, there are ways to sound friendly, be clear about what you are seeking, and demonstrate that you are a well-rounded individual with a variety of interests.
I am a devout Catholic and believe in celibacy until marriage. I'm not a prude or frigid. I love cuddling, kissing, hugs, and holding hands. I just think that the physical, emotional, and spiritual intimacy of love-making should be reserved until after the I do's have been said.
A lot also depends on which site you are on. Some sites are pretty junky. Too many players. Strong statements about "No Players" may be necessary. Paid sites are better . . . sometimes. I've read statements from women who claimed that they had endured "men pushing for premarital monkey business" on paid Christian dating sites.
Finding a devout, practicing Catholic (or even an amenable Christian) man on a secular dating site may be difficult. A significant fraction of CM members are "5 of 7" believers. The fraction on secular sites will be much, MUCH higher. I imagine that it is the trade-off between large ponds stocked with many low-quality fish versus small ponds with a few higher-quality fish.
I agree with you completely regarding "false advertising." I only hope I did not sound like that is what I was advocating. Not at all. What I tried to say in my usual clumsy way is that a profile that accentuates the positive is more attractive to more people, than is a profile that includes every negative. I prefer to let the other person decide what I have that is negative - and really, the only way to know that is by communicating one on one, whether online or by telephone. In my opinion, it's okay to abruptly quit communicating with someone who clearly tried to mislead.
Good luck. God bless.
So - should I leave that paragraph out of a profile and hope that I might meet someone who will like me enough to agree to honor my values if/when the issue comes up? I don't want to lead anyone on or appear that I'm playing games. I also want to avoid the argument that I've had with others. You know the one. "You've been married and have kids so you obviously aren't a virgin. So why wait for marriage? How can you wait since you've obviously already had sex?"
Thought and opinions as well as sharing your experiences regarding this are all welcome.
Leave it in. It will spare you from wasting your time on the wrong types of men.
I'm a devout, practicing Catholic. I believe it all. I order my life to follow the moral and spiritual precepts of the Church. Looking for someone who can not only accept that but also support me in my endeavors.
Excellent revision Jack.