Discussion related to living as a Catholic in the single state of life. As long as a topic is being discussed from the perspective of a single Catholic then it will be on-topic.
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"I saw someone on CatholicMatch I really wanted to talk with but I simply refused to subscribe in order to try and meet them.
"I go a message from a [guy] / [women] and I wanted to respond to them but I simply refused to subscribe."
The harsh reality for people (including myself when I was single) is that if someone doesn't respond to you they are either not interested or simply pre-occumpied with other things in their life or a combination of the two. While that can be tough to take it can often be liberating because you can quickly move on to someone who is interested.
I don't always send a response myself, especially, as the other ladies have mentioned, when the gentleman has clearly not read my profile, and only messaged me because he liked my photos. However, I know that it's disheartening to not get any response, even a rejection, so I'm making a point to send a message to those who were kind enough to come look at my profile, because I know that some of them took the time to actually *read* it. So, yes, there's a plethora of reasons for why people don't send responses, but don't feel like that means you need to leave CM. If it's God's will, we'll all find that special someone in His own time. :)
I mean, if its maybe the start of something, and the other person simply doesn't answer, well, its much better, because nothing really started, it won't hurt. I think that's something that we learn over time in this site.
praying out, riding the fence line
just flakey just a turkey just crazy
On topic, they might not be paying members or they might simply just not be interested. The former happened to me a lot of times. They usually just end up sending multiple emotigrams without messages or just liking my photos. Then again, not willing to be a paying member simply means they aren't serious enough about finding someone. Like I explained to my sister earlier this morning, what is $50 a year compared to potentially finding someone you'll spend the rest of your life with? You can't measure true love in currency! One thing non-paying members don't realize is that because of their decision not to join the site, they may miss out on finding that person they've been looking for their whole life! ;)
Even a message from someone of the opposite sex doesn't necessary mean they are looking for a date. Perhaps they wish to comment on something in a forum post or your profile, or perhaps noticed something you have in common. Many people carry on strictly platonic communications on CM.
And even if the 89 year old was interested romantically, perhaps this is the man God has hand-picked just for you...
I actually don't find that to be true-- no one has ever been able to answer the question of how long does one wait for someone to respond. A person might not log on regularly. She may not have received the e-mail notification. She may be on vacation, on a sequestered jury, a cruise, on military reserve duty, in jail, or otherwise not in a position to respond. Her phone might be broken (my colleague has probably gone through a dozen phones in the last few years) and she doesn't have a desktop or laptop computer. When you don't get a response, you are left to wonder and try to muster some Christian charity to excuse her non-response. When you get a response right away, even a negative response, then you can "quickly" move on to someone who is interested.