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The story of Abraham and Sarah is told in chapters 11-25 of the book of Genesis.
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But like so many posters in 45+ and others, I find the search is tiring and I am thinking of sliding my chair away from the computer and just living life. Anyone have a story where 2 people meet each other just in the course of their daily lives and
I find the search is tiring and I am thinking of sliding my chair away from the computer and just living life. Anyone have a story where 2 people meet each other just in the course of their daily lives
But therein lies the rub, I believe. It is no less an honor to receive countless small gifts than it is to receive the largest gift under the tree. I choose not to equate my joy with the one person who is intended to be all to me and value instead the stranger who shares a smile, the patron who welcomes you back after vacation, the colleague who discusses their struggles with faith over lunch. These are the joys which open themselves up to us when we open ourselves up to them.
And yes-the occasionally unexpected emotigram from someone three thousand miles away.
If I Google dating sites in my state for "professional singles" (or, I'm sure, any other group), a number of sites will come up. Good sites, not come ons. But of course, exercise discretion.
Point is, mingle. As much as you can. God bless. Good luck.
Let's play this in slow motion... and see if we can take smaller snapshots at what is the essence of this saying. Look at it in reverse order too, and we will see the brilliance of it, while at the same time, nothing is stated falsely, and no guarantees are given by those who say it.
This is a very wise old saying; only when we approach it with faith and humility will we understand it.
All it says is TRUST GOD COMPLETELY while said another way! Those that do, also trust one another, and it's only natural that they "get" what is meant by it all along. Those that don't always place an impediment in the way, and it's usually their will, their interpretation, their desire... and God refuses to be filtered like that... so nothing good in the end comes of all those selfish motivations... and, they too get out of it what they see in it - nothing.
My grandfather used to say that a person that puts their desire above God's will never understand this saying, even if they want to; they just won't. Why? Because they/we want our desire above God's. Period. Thus we imagine our idols, our desires, our lusts and not what God presents. Our ascent is required to build impediments, so it's necessary that we desire to tear them down also. By our will not properly disposed, we put our blinders to Him and his work on our behalf. Our sin of pride does this. Our sin of pride also leads us into a multitude of other sins, and soon the webs we weave for ourselves are so complex God sees the closed door to the soul and He won't come inside the cluttered house filled with our junk.
So, let's begin the slow motion playbacks...
Now, would we not agree that the "one" for us should/will only occur but AT MOST just once at any time, if at all, during the time we are genuinely free to marry? So, all the other instances are at best "near misses" or brief encounters for a time, if not "travesties" of longer durations; these are really NOT IT at all. And of all the rest of the time that has to fill that time vacuum is rather substantial, relative to that one moment. In terms of that "one" instance, the rest is but an empty void to be filled with other stuff. So, the SURPRISE, is to be expected, and yet it's always still a surprise because it really can't be waited on in a vacuum. Our life goes on. If it doesn't there is something wrong with us. So, that is where the other saying comes in: "by the grace of God, go I". That is how we should live. TRUST GOD COMPLETELY!
Would not all agree that that incident is such a small fraction of time relative to the rest of our time, even just in this life? It doesn't make sense for us just to be standing around and moping for this one incidental fulfillment! If we do, how will we have learned any other useful skills? Also, is this not the time, when we truly must trust in God to lead, that those precious moments occur for each and every one of us? It doesn't matter if you are a man or a woman. God shows up with surprises all the time, every second of every hour of every day... and only once, at most, will He grant this "one" to a couple as long as both live...
When we least expect it... meaning when we don't expect anything at all... we are letting God dictate our life. And of course, we expect things to happen and not at all. God at that point is in control. Let go and let God be with us all.
Then there's the example of my parents :) but another time for that one...