Discussion related to living as a Catholic in the single state of life. As long as a topic is being discussed from the perspective of a single Catholic then it will be on-topic.
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A lot of people on the internet aren't really serious about wanting a relationship or maybe they are just lazy and think it will fall into their laps or they have this ideal in their mind of a perfect person and won't consider real human beings.....I don't know why people don't reply but it is frustrating so many of us feel your pain. Just have fun with the internet don't expect too much and you won't be disappointed.
thats great advice! That's what I'm hoping for is to get to know new people first before entering into anything serious. Im keeping that in mind and enjoying the single life by going out to concerts, traveling, and if I can get up enough courage, skydiving this summer!
As has already been mentioned, unfortunately, most messages are not responded to, either because a person got busy and a message ends up on the second page of their inbox, and thus gets lost for weeks or months; because they don't see enough in common with the other member; because of a difference in answers to the faith questions (btw, I noticed that at the top of your profile, it says "Yes to most," but on each of the questions, you answered "Yes," so perhaps ladies aren't seeing that you're really a 7/7 Catholic, which is very important factor many of us look out for); or because of the whole "I can't relocate"/"Prefer a specific location" issue.
The great thing about CM is that there are so many Catholics to make friends with, but not everyone is here to make friends, but find that special someone, and to find them only. Also, because of some bad experiences, the ladies have gotten very cautious about responding to gentleman unless they're *really* interested, so please don't give up because you haven't received many answers. Hang in there, keep praying, and you'll find your special lady someday. Until then, we're praying for you.
In a lot of cases it is relatively easy to figure out the 'name, rank, serial number' of a member whose only identification you see is their name on the screen. Depending on how chatty you become...and how soon...little clues tumble out that can lead to discovering who you are typing with. Our profiles, depending on how detailed, can give us away, too!
I don't advocate freezing up because that would defeat the purpose of being on this site and getting to know anyone. However, I do believe we must be very careful. Personal identity security in an online relationship...be it with a bank or with a potential life partner...is a ticklish issue. Common sense and trust need to walk hand in hand when putting ourselves 'out here'.
Women on this site are definitely not obligated to send a response and neither are the men. Its disapointing to hear that some of the men are choosing to be petty and lash out at women for saying no. Sure it's disappointing not to hear back from the women I message but the thing I wanted to raise to the group here is if I was doing anything wrong with my profile or approach. If I haven't hear ld back I let it go. I guess that's just the attitude I've adopted to not get totally disappointed over my first online dating experience.
I'm sure you aren't doing anything wrong!