As the Genie told Aladdin, "Beeeeeeeeeee yourself!" :-) The bottom line is God will guide you to her and her to you. Patience and trust is key.... but, of course, that's easier said than done. A friend of mine recommended praying back-to-back novenas to various saints for this one intention. Don't forget pray for her too!
Not too sure what those 49 messages contained, but I think you if you review a lady's profile and choose a common interest to spark a conversation, then you're more likely to get a response. Just don't be one of those guys who sends a very generic emote saying, "You're cute! Let's chat!"
Pray. Hope. And don't worry. ;-) She's out there! And, hopefully, praying for you too.