Very well put, Joan.
the author of the original piece would have done everyone a favor by using 'Or...' as a paragraph on its own and not using the number four for his move from the satirical to the truly intended meaning. using the number four makes it seem like it should be a continution of the previous three when it's actually the 'complete opposite' of them.
My pastor puts it another way. Love is not a feeling, but a choice. I choose you. Once for all time. And if someday (heaven forfend) I should fall out of "that loving feeling" with you for a while, even a long while, welcome to life. I must work at it, not expect it to fall in my lap. And ask for God's help.
P.S. Are there circumstances where even the patience of Job is insufficient? Sure. Alcoholism. Spousal abuse. Repetitive infidelity. In my own case, I found myself thinking much more clearly, and with more conviction, when I talked to my pastor.
I am also wondering why he is critical about having sexual compatibility. Wouldn't that naturally occur when you find a good spouse?
Yes, i agree with your understanding of his sarcasm. It was funny although not as clear as could be desired.
No woman on this site expects perfection, i'm sure, we just portray what our preferences are and i myself commonly admit that, "i'm no superwoman!"
i do agree with you that physical compatibility could come naturally but it isn't even necessary as we are all women educated enough to be able to read so can learn what would be best both physically and spiritually with the marriage bed for the future "soul mate or superman."