(quote) Kenny-949632 said: Hi Everyone,
In doing the silly " I get too many messages" thread, I received some private messages from men and women....
After a few jokes, the main concerns and problems they expressed
were that so many of the profiles that they see and read are " Intimidating"
to an extent.... A large extent.....!!
Many people in their profiles list all of the things that make them so wonderful ..They have so so many activities and seem to have such wonderful and full lives.
The concerns stated that many also seem to want close to perfection in a possible spouse. .. They want a possible Sweetheart that will do the 6 thousand activities with them and join them as the community builds them a statue for being so wonderful....
Personally, I do get a little intimidated reading some of the profiles. Men, some men, when they get in their late 50's and 60's, don't necessarily want to do 100 things everyday or be something that they are not.....Or feel intimidated a bit..
I watch this Catholic Priest on TV sometimes and I remember him saying that in a relationship, we should believe that The Blessed Mother is on your left shoulder and Jesus is on your right shoulder.....
Maybe we ,,,me,,you,,we,,should review our profiles and make them less perfect, and less seeking perfect,,, and show some humbleness and humility and maybe a flaw or two...
If, you, ,,me,,we,,were really that perfect, would we really be ALONE !!??? Everyone,,, me too,, can't be Mr. Ms. Excitement,,Mr. Ms.. Entertainment all the time...I'm not Mr. Any of those things,,,but I thank God that I'm not Mr. Abusive,,,Mr. Violent,,Mr. Disrespectful or Mr. Cheater...I'm just a sack of potatoes and a Bozo at times (affectionately)...I wouldn't have it any other way..
People do not want to be intimidated. I want a woman with humility to hug me with her heart,,, hug me with her eyes,, hug me spiritually and emotionally,,and one day hug me with her arms..
If my profile intimidates her, or her profile intimidates me,,,we will never share joy together...
I challenge you,,and me,,to re-visit our profiles to see if we added enough human humility and humbleness..
Then ask God if """"He Likes Your Profile """????.
love to all
Why do you always have to make these thought-provoking posts Kenny? You made me triple check and quadruple check my own profile to see if I was scaring away any potential matches away!
In all serious though, you, good sir, have definitely become my new favorite person here on the forums
I agree with you when you say that it seems like many of us are searching for someone who is spotless and perfect in every aspect even when we ourselves are not perfect. It is clear that humility is a virtue that is undervalued in this day and age. That being said, your metaphorical idea of hugging is powerful and certainly full of truth. I feel that more of us should follow in your example and reexamine what we our looking for in our potential spouses.