(quote) Rachel-731570 said: I really don't like the terms 'hot' or 'sexy' -- I feel they are demeaning and focus on the wrong things and undermine a person's worth and self-image.
I want to 'burn with love of God' and also to be appealing and attractive to men (one forever man) but I don't want my body to be all that he is attracted to or the main thing he is attracted to. We all age and our bodies show wear and use -- this should not make us less appealing or less attractive to anyone -- if someone is that shallow, I really am not going to feel that strong a connection or attraction to them anyhow. But if someone feels the burn of my love for life, for truth, for God and is attracted to that, that I appreciate and usually reciprocate. Be on fire for God and love His people, and I will love you!
Just my thoughts :)
Oh wow. You've hit the nail on the head.
WOWEE! People who don't get it think either that spirituality is something subjective, and not either authentically Catholic or not, that their own opinion matters more than God's or that they can compromise with God on what objectively pleases Him.
BUT, it is IMPOSSIBLE to see and understand these things having been indoctrinated by the world's views UNLESS our mind and heart is converted by the Gifts of the Holy Ghost. I was definitely one of those people who thought I was modest because I compared myself to the standards of what other women were wearing, not realizing I was really pharasaical, but without the piety (even worse...lol!), "I give Thee thanks that I am not like ...(one of those women that dress immodestly by my standards)..."
IT wasn't until I did the Preparation for Total Consecration that my 'tastes' changed. I didn't even realize what had happened until like 7 weeks later that I realized I was wearing on a sliver of a fraction of my wardrobe, keeping with just a few items that were modest (except I had difficulty with the blouse --- because the way they cut blouses today for women is ridiculous). I eventually sorted that out, however. Anyway, this is all about putting God first, and in exchange, He fortifies us in His graces.
Now I look at immodest people and think, "He/she is called to a great state of holiness, and they haven't even begun the journey yet. They may be called to a much higher degree of sanctity to most people who are now striving for holiness, but who will know unless they give up their wills to God's?"
It is just so frustrating, because I think some women have no idea how damaging immodesty is to their brother neighbor, whether or not he is aware of the damage. I used to think, "Well, if he gets the 'wrong idea' that's HIS problem." But how wrong I was! Our Lord warned us about people like I was, that it would be better that a millstone had been tied around my neck and tossed into the sea! And that would not have been the worse of it! The worse of it is awareness of God and awareness of having been separated from Him. Wowee! That is the biggest pain of hell, of all the many pains.
But God is so merciful and good, that He gives us the opportunity to call upon Him to have the grace to know, love and serve Him. Ask, no, BEG for the infused graces (Gifts of) of the Holy Ghost, but even better, ask through the Blessed Virgin Mary, as with the Preparation for Total Consecration, because HER prayers are more effective than ours on their own, to say the least, and are more powerful than all the saints put together.
All that is not to say that we won't still have temptations, especially when the weather is hot and we want to go swimming, and there is a chance that others will see us, especially of the opposite gender. But I have to remind myself all that the Lord and the Blessed Mother have suffered and did for me personally. They mean more to me than anything else. And may they continue to keep me under Her mantle, and may the Lord hold me with both hands. By my modesty, I am not merely clothing my God-created body, but also I have put on "the armor of God" by my choosing to put Him first.