It's their potential, and if they are going to allow me to lead, and if they are not going to force me to lower my respect for myself and them. I'm looking across the board at this stage, and I can say on one hand. I want some super sharp, on top of things gal with a mind for business, I automatically placed the artistic, creative, nurturing type out of the picture. If I went for the latter, I automatically pushed the supportive, simple gal out of the picture, since they would think me as being unapproachable, I can go on and on like this. I could be happy with many types of women, appreciate them for who they are, as they are and not try to change them. Moving on from there, the basics of the basics, I also am attracted to the bad girl, many men are, they just won't admit it, but that's strictly on a primal level. I would rather be with a someone that's not fitting my criteria that has a lot of passion, then any that match it, that are boring.
We move on from there, how much love and affection did Jesus show to Mary Magdelen? She was and is still considered tainted, dirty, and an outcast, yet the fact remains, she is not, she has been forgiven, she repented and became a new creation, born again, and should be thought of that way.
I'm here for testing the waters, but I'm also out in the world, and right now the strongest candidate for me is a gal that works at a local gas station, have no idea what her faith is, and yes she has a child, but she works two jobs and guess what, she is actually talking to me like a normal human being, no pretension, doesn't expect some song and dance, our chats are short, but she is saying everything in the right context, being honest, has dreams, plenty of energy, sharp as a tack, motivated, and cute. Yes, she's younger then me, but she has a level of maturity I can very much relate to.
I also see too often, where people place this checklist of do's and dont's yet ignore what they are bringing to the table, into the relationship. What is it that we are giving into it, rather then taking out of it? It's about building relationships, and of those, hopefully one goes into the stage of romance.
At the end of my 30 days here, I will detail every nuance of my experience, including all of the scripting issues CM should have worked out long ago, so far this is just about revenue and raising false hope. I'm going to make this public to the parishes I attend, and make it very clear, this is absolutely not sufficing what so ever for the singles in our community.
Some of the most unlikely people turn out to be most interesting...and the ones who seem great on paper just don't work out somehow.
I think we all have some Must Haves which should never be compromised.
That said, I think being here certainly expresses my preferences... I would like someone who can lead me in life, and help guide me to heaven. I will, of course, do the same for my spouse, so if we can agree on what gets us there, that would be best.