Your goal is simple "and good advice given on cutting to the chase and asking her out on a date", . Be confident, have something behind you, a game plan for your being, career or otherwise, and engage. Yes, you gotta be positive, but being a motivational speaker get's tiring to be around, be yourself and be honest and genuine. If the gals don't respond to that, they aren't right for you in the first place. They will end up falling for some slick talker that will lie to them, manipulate the whole situation, and basically the whole thing in all cases is their agenda entirely to get them in bed. I could easily play that latter part with finesse, I never chose to, and it's just pitiful that so many gals fall for what is technically called social engineering., ie. getting a person to reveal information or do things they wouldn't normally do.
You are at a very good age, and being strong in the faith especially at it, you are a true leader, a smart one as well since you have no problems asking for answers to your questions. You have a tough battle ahead of you, your generation has been given a raw deal along the faith and it's due to the world that has creeped into our moral fabric of our current society, just remain firm in your resolve to not be part of the world and God will send you the perfect wife to help you along your way. Right now, it's just time for you to prepare, and don't feel like you have to be this big pick up artist and have a major set of skills to actively pick up women, you only need one good one, not a selection.