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I only signed up for a month, but am very discouraged.
Thanks for bringing this up.
I don't know which "no" delivery is best, if there is a best "no" delivery, but either way, it's still a no. But....you don't just throw in the towel and give up trying to get a job. You just suck it up, and keep plugging away. Same way with dating.
On another note, if I applied to get a job as a chief surgeon, something I am not even remotely qualified for, then I have no business being disappointed in the "no" answer that I would get. Or more accurately, when they ignore me (= no). Same thing for dating. Are you reading the lady's profile? Are you even remotely close to what she is looking for? Is she looking for a solidly faithful man, whereas you are someone who is a 3/7 on the faith questions? Is she looking for someone annulled, and you haven't even considered seeking one? Is she looking for someone semi-physically fit (maybe she's a runner) yet you are someone who smokes regularly and wheezes just walking up a small flight of stairs? Or maybe you think she'd be a perfect fit for you, because when you look in the mirror you still see that young 20-something lad you used to be, yet she's looking to date someone (actually) in her age range (20-something) and you are late 40's or 50's?
Just make sure you are reading her profile and are really someone close to who she is looking for, otherwise, when she ignores you, then you have no one to blame but yourself. (I.e. a very elderly gent "liked' a very young lady's pic and all that did was give her the ewwww factor).
I didn't find your post offensive. It is normal that there will be people against you or with you. That's part of it all I guess. You cannot make everyone happy.
The world isn't America of course and there are plenty of cultures where big age differences are more widespread. But that opens up a whole new set of issues as to the different expectations out of marriage. If you married an 18 year old from such a culture, she probably wouldn't be your best friend. You may see a lot of "must be financially secure" if you go that route.
It's tough being on a clock and men our age definitely are if we want children. Not as biologically brutal as the one women are on but it's there anyway. And in some ways it's even more unpredictable. What if I meet my Snow White and she's 40? Well, then, God didn't want me to have biological children. That would be too bad, but if we were a perfect fit in other ways I'm not going to throw it away.