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Discussion related to living as a Catholic in the single state of life. As long as a topic is being discussed from the perspective of a single Catholic then it will be on-topic.

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Jun 29th 2013 new
I meant St. Anthony, he's the Wedding planner. St- Peter is you know the buttler. He has the keys of the Castle after all.
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Jun 29th 2013 new
(quote) Kenny-949632 said:

Respectfully, in my opinion, humbly,,,when people have the mindset as you've shared,,,, they are already in "'the comfort zone"" of a single extreme caution life...

Many, not everyone,,,,will keep saying """You can't just jump into Marriage for the sake of being married""" as their safety net,,when they are 45,,at 55 and at 65...

One can be fairly accurate when reading many of the forum posts,,who will be single forever and those that may find meaningful relationships...It is so so so obvious..!!.

I'm just a singer in a rock n roll band,,and I'm not too smart,,,,but I agree we have to be cerebral at times and use caution...But caution is only one of the extended human senses...We may need to combine caution with desire and hope for GOD GIVEN needed companionship..

Personally,,,we can all find something in a potential mate to stop the relationship....Personally, again,,,,,,if I was as so so so so cautious,,,, as i see people here,,, when I met my late wife,,,I would not have had decades of shared wonderful joy....

Are you letting all the EXCUSES stop you from Sweetheart joy, contentment and inner peace..?????

This site may be classified as a dating site,,hopefully it is,,,but it may also be called the ""I'm not willing to REALLY REALLY REALLY take some risks"""" SITE... OR....the """I want a Sweetheart Handed to ME on a Silver platter Site """

Maybe i'm wrong...probably am....very disappointed at this site,,,,but I've tasted sweet warm compassionate shared wonderful love...I KNOW it can exist.....Once tasted,,,I'd love to experience,,, taste it again..But the window is closing,,and I'm old,,tired,,and maybe lazy,,and not too smart...


I'll check back in 20,,25,,and 30 years and I bet i see the same people talking about Extreme Caution,,and of course we have to say the obligatory...""IF AND WHEN IT IS GOD'S WILL""!!!

Of course that is true.....BUT Are YOU using your GIFTS to seek and attract a mate...God is not like Pizza Hut..He doesn't deliver Sweethearts to us.....He wants us to place the order with Him,,BUT we must go and ""PICK IT UP"",,,,,
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Kenny take back your two pennies,
instead of quoting life according to readers digest love story of the month put your other foot in your mouth and listen up Romeo. I'm 61 and have spent 45 years caring for a mother shell shocked from having a husband so dangerous that in the 70's the police had a shoot to kill do not approach order. On top of that she was a victim of unauthorized experimental surgery for a hysterectomy. She required * major surgical reconstructive procedures so she could go to th e toilet normally. Years of pain and terror. I chose to care for her and I stayed to protect her. Fortunately he never got to our house. I was prepared for him and he wouldn't have left the property in the vertical. I look at a lot of the ladies profiles and I recognize the look in the eyes of a person bullied and treated like a possession for conjugal entertainment. open your eyes Kenny these women have experienced being tossed in the bin like a used tissue, "a blow and throw attitude. The never marrieds often have been trapped in relationships where the so called 'Man' won't marry them because in the bottom draw the toad never intended to marry them. His priorities are Sex, Food, Washing, Fridge filled and if she gets pregnant that's not my problem. Women have been over sexualized in the media in music lyrics, internet pornography showing woman wanting sexual perversion. Then we move to the wife basher's, now this is a dangerous group for me. By that I mean, if I see it happening I guarantee the piece pond scum the longest stay in rehab to contemplate his evil ways. This world is not user friendly to those who want to live decently.
I am not saying all marriage and relationship failures are the fault of the male partner. In the case for women though the male is usually 2 to 3 times stronger than female, this disparity is often used to intimidate and control the relationship. I would say you have successfully insulted, alienated and humiliated about 75 percent of CM subscribers. I had to sacrifice my time for a relationship to protect my mother and put no one else at risk, The good news is he died and the bad news is my mother is in a nursing home brain damaged and not eligible for home nursing. So at 61 I now am rebuilding my life and I am on CM to Find a woman to be my significant other. A womans past is nobodies business but God's. What God has forgiven I have no need to know. The woman I marry will know what it is to be loved, cherished and put first. But I have one other crazy monkey to deal with. The "Age' Stigma I am 61 and I get the usual "you don't look it!' and I don't doubt their sincerity. If I look in Age bracket of 40 to 50 out comes another lable to label me uncharitably because I'd like the Sacramental relationship open to the gift of a child. So how about looking at us late starters with a kinder heart and keep the labels locked up. For a lot of us this is our first and last chance for love and happiness. I really don't think your being spiteful but some peoples lives would kill a Rattle snake their lives have been that toxic. So let us move on and let the love flow unchecked by silly labels. AFTER ALL WHEN WE DIE WE WILL ALL BE THE SAME AGE! That's going to make remembering birthdays a snap. So fair maidens I bow before thee and from among you is God's Masterpiece and we will live happily into eternity. No jealousy, no controlling, just two on a journey as one. If no child was possible then at least the marriage was open to life and God's will was possible. I bless God for having made woman. If all else was lost it would not matter as long as God's choice was at my side. God bless us seekers all!
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Jun 29th 2013 new

If it is, then nobody has ever call my attention to it (not that anybody would probably).

I think it really depends on the person looking. Like what some people have already mentioned here, people can hold different things against you (being single, being divorced, age, nationality, height, etc.).

There could be a number of different reasons why people are still not married at a certain age. And the only way to know if the reason is acceptable for you or not is to get to know the person better. Of course, some would prefer not to waste time and just look elsewhere. That might be another missed opportunity though for both parties, in my opinion.

I also agree in the stigma of being single in this day and age. I experience being the odd man out (er...woman) since I live in an environment where most people are already married with kids.

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Jun 29th 2013 new
I don't know if it does or not, unless a woman was to tell me so. I often wonder what's wrong with me, normally along the lines of, e.g., I don't have a lot of money, I'm not extroverted or outgoing enough, something wrong with my attitude? It didn't cross my mind to think that simply never having been married was a strike against you.

I have certain grounds for never having been marrried. I was in a religious order for almost 6 years, and spent 2 to 3 years researching and visiting orders before that, so I spent much of my twenties out of the dating scene.
It's definitely harder tying to date now than 20 years ago. There's just fewer opportunities to meet available women, the pool of available women is smaller, and where I've moved to, I haven't been able to build a social circle through which I could meet enough women near my age. But I'll keep plugging along.

It's discouraging to think that "never married" is just another red flag on my head.
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Jun 29th 2013 new
Single, divorced, widowed, too tall, too short, too unique, too average . . .
Every human attribute may cause problems for someone else. **shrug**

Waddaya gonna do? boggled
Jus' keep on keepin' on



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Jun 29th 2013 new
What if people just perceived through the eyes of 'love'? Maybe all the things they thought were a problem would melt away like a promise after a rainbow had bestowed it.
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Jun 29th 2013 new
Monica it's very precious what you said. It actually is a good line for one of my stories. Mind if I borrow it, at least the idea. Since it is science fantasy, I might have to rearrange that in order for it to be more cryptic and thus more suitable for the genre, but it is so true. You analogy with the rainbow....wow!
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Jun 29th 2013 new
Not at all Carlos since that is not copyrighted I am blessed that you feel it will help you in your writing endeavors. Maybe we can share thoughts since I write too.
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Jun 29th 2013 new
He will be.
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Jun 29th 2013 new
(quote) Elle-812598 said:

I think it really depends on the person looking. Like what some people have already mentioned here, people can hold different things against you (being single, being divorced, age, nationality, height, etc.). 

There could be a number of different reasons why people are still not married at a certain age. And the only way to know if the reason is acceptable for you or not is to get to know the person better. Of course, some would prefer not to waste time and just look elsewhere. That might be another missed opportunity though for both parties, in my opinion.


Nicely put. smile
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