Trish, you've got a beauty of a thread going here. There are some wonderful observations, some painful frustrations, glorious Hope, and even thankfulness. I like to think this is one of the best things going on here with CM.
I have one more thing to add, it derives from a devotional work of Protestant origins, but is mostly consistent with (at least my best understanding of) The Gospel in particular and the Bible overall. As has already been noted, EXPECTATIONS can be our greatest roadblock. This little book would tell us (as Jesus speaking) that we must avoid expectation and Trust in Him; and that expectations can easily consume us, diverting us from The Father's Will, thus becoming an idol that we effectively worship in conflict with His Commandments.
We each have our Hopes - God knows them even better than we do. I have learned to pray: Lord, You know my heart, my desires, my dreams, and my fears - all of what I am, have been, and will be; Grant me Your Peace, and the Grace to Trust in You and to have the strength to press on and do my part.
I have learned and then relied on this very much over the past 3+ years while dealing with my divorce, continuing to raise and guide my sons, and dodge one layoff cycle after another. In addition I have prayerfully gone through a discernment (God got the message through that I'm "...not done being a Father!" to my sons), and realized that I am called to Marriage. (There also seemed to be an emphatic, "Now get off your tail, find your annulment papers, and get them done - I've got Plans for you!).
CM is a resource where by we can present ourselves for God's Purposes, which include fellowship, learning and growing our Faith with the help of each other, and perhaps being available by way of our profiles, so that another might see us and hear, "That's the one. Send a Message." I too have gotten full measure and more for the cost of my membership.
I thank God for all of you, and to the one that might be in my future: I hope to be available soon; I look forward to meeting you!