(quote) Brian-278516 said: The discussions concerning divorced Catholic by members who are not divorced themselves have never gone well and have often ended it a lack of charity towards members who have gone through a divorce. Thus we created a separate room for those discussions. We publish a number of blog articles on the topic which clearly articulate the Church's teaching and have those authors occasionally comment in the divorce room as well. As of now we feel that separation does the most good for all involved.
It is not uncommon for those who have never been married to be contacted by those who are not free to marry in the Church with the intention of discerning a dating relationship. While it is true this topic is covered in various blog posts and in the Divorced forum, the s never-married members may not know to go searching these out; if they do readt he posts in the divorced forum, they may, depending on exactly what they read, may be left with a very incomplete understanding of the issues involved. Even in the best possible case, where they do find information that covers the most important concerns, they are not afforded the opportunity to ask questions or participate in the discussion.
While I agree that such discussions may become heated, the assertion that they never
go well is quite over-reaching. There are many topics discussed in the forums that have a tendency to become uncharitable: the best way to deal with such behavior is to correct it if and when it occurs. Hopefully the members involved will learn charity and self-control int he process. Preemptively restricting conversation to avoid conflicts teaches no one anything.
As a final note, I will note that the lack of charity in the forum discussions being addressed here is not exclusively, nor even primarily, directed toward the divorced members, as suggested above. It is also worth noting that many of the claims of lack of charity in these discussions are not so, but rather the accuser reacting defensively to a difficult message they would rather not hear. Withholding the truth in such cases is not charitable -- in fact, it is quite the opposite.