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Jul 10th 2013 new
(quote) Doug-974859 said: Hi Ann,

I agree I like your checklist - very thorough, very well thought out. I especially like (3), please post photos. I just won't communicate with a ghost.

Now for a tip for your gender. Try to be original in your profile. Please, no more "honesty" stuff - "I'm looking for an honest man," or "I value honesty," or the like. 'scuse me, but I never thought of myself as anything but honest. Why mention it? Sounds just a little insulting. I'm just saying.

Good luck and God bless, Doug

Not all people, men and women included, are honest. I also have "looking for someone honest" because I've had my share of experiences with dishonest people. Its not my, or I believe anyone's, intention to insult viewers by requesting someone "honest".

Why mention it? As for myself, I am trying to state clearly that I will settle for no less than 100% honesty in a man. It's that important to me, and that why it's in my profile.

I hope you can get past the feeling of being insulted while reading that in women's profiles or you might pass up a good opportunity.

Jul 10th 2013 new
(quote) Reena-961146 said: Just be yourself. Be charitable. Be real. Don't pretend to be someone you're not to keep the other interested. Ask yourself if you really are ready to date and meet someone. Have fun. Don't be too attached especially if you haven't met face to face , well , even if you met face to face - discern if they are the one whom God wants for you, rise above emotions. Encourage each other to grow in our Catholic faith. Don't take it personal if things didn't work out. Pray for each other...
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I vote this the BEST answer in the thread. GREAT advice, Reena!
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Jul 10th 2013 new
Yes I'm in full agreement I was not trying to cause negativity but some will choose to take this all too seriously....I forget that from time to time. I'd delete it if I could.
Jul 10th 2013 new
(quote) Alex-789274 said: This appears contradictory.

You want us to tell you something about us, should it be personal? While we are supposed to ask questions, we are not supposed to ask personal ones. What should we ask?
Appropriate personal questions such as hobbies and work or beliefs but upfront questions on sexual matters before you know someone at all are not appropriate. You'd be amazed at what some people ask.
Jul 10th 2013 new
(quote) Angela-374523 said:

I think Ann can answer for herself, but if I can chime in too:

Some subjects require some tact in how they are addressed, and probably should be discussed only when you get to know each other a bit better. Online messaging back and forth and even a first face-to-face meeting are get-to-know-the-other-person opportunities. Personal conversations are for when you know the person a bit better.

Examples of acceptable early "personal" questions / conversations:

"Did you grow up around here or are you from somewhere else originally?"

"I grew up in . Where are you from?"

"I love that song. I play it the piano all of the time. Do you play a musical instrument?"

Examples of unacceptable early "personal" questions:

"So how much money do you make in a year? I like to know up front because I want to marry someone who can support a family."

"Have you had your sperm count checked by a doctor? I want to have children."

"Are you still fertile? I want to marry someone who can have children."

"You said you have a sister and a brother-in-law. Are they married or do they just live together?"

"Where do you keep your toenail clippers? The nail on my big toe is catching a thread on my sock."

Yes that is exactly what I was getting at.
Jul 10th 2013 new
This is not a checklist.
Jul 10th 2013 new
For your #3, I agree there needs to be a variety of photos, but I'd also like to see captions that let us know who, what, and/or when.
Something like: "Hanging with my two sisters at a Cubs playoff game, March 2010"
Jul 10th 2013 new
(quote) Patrick-872788 said: My advice to everyone regardless of gender is to relax. This board is full of more angst than a John Hughes movie marathon.

I predict this thread will be locked before 75 posts. Threads in which women and men critique each other do not go well.
Well said Patrick! You made me laugh!
Jul 10th 2013 new
(quote) Ann-69118 said: What would you pass on to the other gender regarding using this site:

Post a profile picture . . . there's no sense hiding, if we meet I'm going to find out what you look like anyway (be sure to make it a recent one). I've said this before, not posting a profile picture is like trying to meet someone in person with a bag over your head

Be honest, if you are not athletic, don't say you are when you are not. (If you're unsure, ask a friend, they'll tell you the truth). And the height thing, well, if you tell me you're 6'2" and I show up in 4" wedges and I tower over you, it's going to be obvious you lied about your vertical dimensions.

Jul 11th 2013 new
Nice post smile
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