(quote) Quentin-43809 said: I met a wonderful lady on here and things are going pretty well. I don't know how far it will advance to but there is one thing that is bothering me. I am overweight and have been most of my life except for 8 years in the military service. My lady friend doesn't constantly attack my weight but every once in awhile she will say you should loose some weight. Now I have put up with that most of my life and coming from someone that I am very interested in it hurts my feelings to hear it from her. She of course is athletic and takes care of herself. As a nurse she knows that the excess weight is not good for me and so do I.
I suppose I have two choices and those would be to have it out with her the next time she mentions my weight or go in for a bypass. I know the bypass is pretty common now but a good friend of mine's wife died after surgery for one and I am wary of it for that reason. If you have any advice I would appreciate it.
I'm not a skinny girl - never been all my 35 years. Just want to preface by saying, I strongly support living a healthy life and so I am not promoting an unhealty lifestyle.
We all should work with what we have. We are stewarts of God's creation - and our bodies are no exception. I would encourage you to take it a day at a time. What is it that makes you say that bypass surgery is your only option? Just start a day at a time, that extra physical activity, the smaller portion etc..it does not have to be something really big like a bypass honestly.
I'm working with what I have. I'm not anti-skinny, but rather pro-work with what you have as every body is beautiful. Beauty knows no dress size or bmi index, just saying.
I'm not a triathlete by any means but I am thankful that God's grace helped me develop work out habit and age made me more aware that there are certain foods that my 18-19 year old body was able to "process" easily but not anymore
And also, Quentin - you've made it at your age - I've known too many who passed away in their 50s due to healh reasons - you shouldn't be too hard on yourself...
If you decisw to be healthier - do it for you. But more so, do it with God's love in mind - that He gave us our bodies for us to be stewarts of His beautiful creation.