(quote) Dave-915458 said:
This is my
2 cents. NEVER, ever visit a guy the
first few times. It is his responsibility to visit you. (And sometimes visiting
him could be dangerous.) However, I dont think it is a problem if you initiate
contact with a guy. (Many girls don't do this - but I think it is a mistake not to contact a guy you are genuinely interested in.) However, once your relationship starts, he needs to lead
As an aside, I would generally
recommend that you ensure the guy has the means to visit you on regular basis.
E.g. if the guy seems like he can only visit you once a year, I dont think you
can have a relationship. Sometimes this is an indication that he is not
this is a problem with both girls and guys on CM: Once they have to meet or get
serious about a relationship, thats when it ends. This may not be true for
other age groups - but I have observed it with mine (and yours, since we are
the same.) I think these people are just looking for a "pen-pal" -
but they dont want to get serious.
I have had
the confidence of a few girls - who asked me advice about their relationship
with other guys. From this I could see how the relationship progresses. Once it
comes for the time to meet, or just after the first meeting is over, thats
when the relationship ends. The same is true of my relationships with other
girls. I force a girl to meet me as soon as possible - otherwise I dont
continue the correspondence. This is because I need to weed out the ones who
are not serious.
EXCELLENT advice - ladies, when we get tempted to take charge of the communication with someone, READ THIS and remind yourself that this is the way it works
!! There are rarely any exceptions. Accept that "He's just not that into you." It is really difficult in our "equality" culture for us women to accept that we only set ourselves up for heartbreak when we take charge of the developing relationship!