Multiple kids don't scare men away. What scares them away is their own limitations and fears. Not all man exhibit this kind of personality limitations though. Comfort has many meanings, to some, comfort is the joy of raising the little ones, mine, or yours, the only difference to them, is how much love they receive regardless who offers the love..
To others, comfort means satisfaction of their own needs. This category happens to be prevailing one.
You are a precious jewel, and it will take another precious one to complete the Union. As much as rare are you, , only the one who is as rare as you are will do.
The odds are against you but God is on your side, guess who will win.
If you really do not hold this vision, or would like to detract, I'd love to have you elucidate it for me and others.
Thanks for the direct personal message. I appreciate your gesture to clarify. I generally don't know the person that posts and I treat each post at face value and usually try to do it in consideration/context of the thread. What I said is how your post read to me. My response was to ask you to reconsider a more complete view of children. I am happy that you have a more complete view. We will really never truly understand how people here view children completely. Certainly, there are those that don't care for them, and I get a bit edgy in those circumstances.
personally I think common sense and the true meaning of love are the answer.
It's the ex-spouse and the legal entities encountered.
If you are widowed, that's one thing, but having an ex-spouse who does not want to live in harmony with you, or your kids is very hard for any potential partner to accept.