(quote) Maryjane-408997 said: Cathy,
Sometimes I think women have more of a conscience then men. Could that be possible? In my experiences, I was always the one to point out the evil. Men tend to conveniently overlook things.
I have heard priests say to seniors you can have a union where you live together, share things, travel, cook, enjoy shows, plays etc. But if you're not married you can't engage in sexual activities. Some seniors, not all are not interested in sex. They had their day in the sun so to speak and, in the latter years, they seem to be interested in the sharing and the caring aspect of a relationship. Also, in their earlier years when they were married, they had children and worked together with their spouse to acquire a home and other financial assets. So, rightfully, their children or whoever else should be entitled to those successes.
Does anyone agree with my thought process or am I off base?
MaryJane, you gave me something to think about. But, I can't think of any priest, that I have known in my whole life to say it would be ok to live with someone when you are not married. I just don't think age gives you any extra advantage to do something that people in their 20s, 30s, etc., would be looked down upon as living in sin. I just don't have the answers here. I just really don't. I think if people are just friends, maybe. But it is there own consciousness's and not me to judge nor would I. I just think about my lovely grandmother who was alone for 30 years by her choice and she was the best example of living a celibate life, went to church, and spoiled us grandkids rutton! I think I more than likely wouldn't have had the respect and love or it would be really hard on me if she lived with a man, even as a roommate. Kids and grandkids are impressionable. You lived your life, why change your morals.
Just my two cents here. I don't have the answer, but I know as a granddaughter, it would have changed my thinking on a lot of things. I think about my only and dearest grandmother, because the other ones passed when I was a baby, all the time. She was the best role model for me and she has been gone since 95! We had some great times and she was an independent little lady who loved life!! I want that on my way out! I want to go out knowing I was loved by my grandkids and died a peaceful life! Just saying.