Thanks for adding this perspective. My son was 6 when my former father-in-law was living with his girlfriend. One night over dinner he asked his dad "Will papa go to hell because he is living with Pam and not married to her? People who aren't married to each other shouldn't be 'sharing their bodies' with each other." His understanding of the commandments was pretty simple, including adultery. He did not know about the marital act, but he knew that "husbands and wives shared their bodies by sleeping in the same bed, seeing each other while get dressed in the bedroom or bathroom, and kissing on the lips." His dad paused and said, "Yes, that might happen." What a tragedy for a child to have to hear.
It doesn't matter how old we are, our state of life, our finances, etc. We are all called to "build the City of God." by our words and deeds. We are called to be role models of authentic Catholicism, each in our own state of life. It does not matter if we are celibate, religious, ordained, married, single, widowed, or divorced with or without and annulment.
I believe that there is a requirement, for instance, to publish the engagement announcement in a newspaper.
Also remember the words in the ceremony.... paraphrasing.... If there is anyone that knows of any reason to not proceed with this marriage, speak now or forever hold your peace. The only way that this would make sense is if the public at large knew about the upcoming wedding.
Quentin, I guess I'm not clear on intentions here. I think I could conceive an honorable situation wherein two are truly comited to a chaste and celibate friendship to share a home for the 'financial efficiencies' just as any two friends might, but that must include separate and respectful personal spaces (bed and bath rooms). If the intention is to share a bed, etc.; I have to concur with the other respondents. You may have all the best convictions, but you're still human, and those times between sleep and waking can be treacherous.
I add my applause for your courage in asking the community, and with them, prayerfully wish you the best. Let Our Dear Savior be your Guide.
I believe that there are some others who have posted in this thread with very good points as well. What is our ultimate goal & how do we get there? Through obedience!