(quote) Myrna-987386 said: Depends upon the depth of the relationship where both are in, and the mindset sensitivity of control. You are only as good where your partner is at the weakest. It took me a long time to understand. We all have egos but men are more sensitive. Smart wives know and accept that to win, you have to lose. I know of one instance where her husband is a good golfer, and for the first time, the wife was going to win. I saw her throw the game to save a marriage.
Now there was a smarter woman than her husband, and you Myrna are smart to have gotten that, but I would not be surprised he understood what she did too and made up for it some other way.
Knowing your spouse's biggest areas of need is critical, be it a need for words of affirmation, quality time, showering her/him with gifts, physical touch, etc... it's about lifting the other up and and asking God to sanctify him/her (both together) by means of ordinary acts.
Only a yes-yes works. A yes-no, no-yes or a no-no in absolutely necessary matters causes the relationship to break down.
Indeed, the relationship is only as strong as the weakest link. Compounding the weakness is foolish; shoring it up with support removes it. It goes both ways.