(quote) Marge-938695 said: Does it make sense? YES!
First, technically speaking, this is not a dating site. It's a place for Christian fellowship. That's why there are blogs and articles and discussions not related strictly to getting romance going. If you want to make new friends of either sex, this is a good place.
Second, after a relationship ends (no matter what kind of relationship or how it ends) we need to rediscover ourselves as individuals -- not as part of a couple. This takes time. The give and take in the forums is a great way to find out things about yourself and the opposite sex that you never dreamed of.
Third, making new acquaintances brings us out of the self-absorption that this re-discovery process may cause. Prayer requests, secrets confided, shared pain all give us reasons to pray. We hope that leads us to being better Catholics.
So, keep on plugging, hang out in the forums, attend an event...or start one yourself. And have fun!
After a three-year hiatus, I've renewed my Catholic Match membership. I first want to shout out a big, "Hello!"
As you can see, my mom gifted me with a unique first name and I love it. When I first tried CM three years ago, I figured it would be easier to go by my middle name. Sometimes it's just too hard explaining or justifying my name to those who don't know me, especially online. This time around, I know - because the
hearts on this site are BIG - that everyone will accept my name.
And onto this topic at hand... I love Catholic Match! I came back seeking the same friendship and fellowship I found three years ago. I was always one of those "unsure" folks. After reading three topics on annulments currently in Divorced Catholics, I see clearly now that I need an annulment. Some well informed people carefully explained what constitutes a sacramental marriage and it seems I fall in the category of a sacramental marriage. That said, I've taken the first steps with my church and I changed my free to marry status to "in process." I also did a complete rewrite of my profile explaining that I'm seeking friendship and will only consider dating should
my annulment be granted. Since my intentions are very purpose-driven, I know I won't be misleading anyone.
I can only speak for myself, no one else, but I do not feel "vulnerable"
or "tempted to pursue romance"
by leaving my status as "active." Honoring the process of annulment and commitment to my faith comes first, so I feel I can meet friends, seek fellowship and do what I love so much on Catholic Match - participate in the forums.
This is my
first post of what I know will be many. It's great to be back.
God bless, everyone.