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Not everyone we are interested in or message or send an emote will reciprocate in a good way, if at all.
I actually had a guy outright insult me!
How do you handle it? I get upset for a minute and then try and move on, or stay away for a day or two.
What do you do? How do you not take it personally?
I try not to take it personal. I'd like to think I'd rather know sooner rather than later so that I can swim away
What the heck. But you know Trish you and I cannot control how people feel about us.
I even had a woman tell me I am not macho enough, hmmmm. Ok now that is a rather intense insult. Also I was a new Veteran after Viet Nam, and conservative, that was a no no as well.
What do you do during rejection, first I know that Christ Loves me and believes in me. also it may also depend on the type of person you are gettng to know. I did something different in the last few years. Swab the decks Mike, you cant cry over everything.
I started to do things which I enjoyed, I made my own self improvements - for - my own happiness. I kept myself busy, and got into hobbies and activities that made me happy.
I met new people and new friends. "I love anything Hsitorical and gardening and theater.
Recently I had begun to see my faith in a very different light, which endowed me a new strength. A new purpose and reaching out to other people
Soon rejection will be seen in a new perspective, hey look at this way Trish, your a great lady, it will be his loss.
Blessings to You
I'm sorry that this happened to you! Rejection is hard to deal with, no matter if in real life or online, but I have to say that after some months on CM I've become less sensitive to rejection on here than I was at first. So, it will probably get easier for you! The fact is, unless someone chooses to let you know just why they are rejecting you, one cannot assume why the person has decided not to give you a chance - it could be for a myriad of reasons, some of them having nothing to do with you. So, accept that this person is not interested and move on. God bless you!
I acknowledge that - for whatever reason, (usually one can't pinpoint actually WHY) - they do not feel, or I do not find myself feeling - enough of a pull to want to continue exploring a potential / or romantic relationship.
We simply are not attracted to every member of the opposite sex, thank goodness, or things would get very weird. I meet new people constantly, but it's rare for me to feel a spark, or that special pull. It's nobody's fault, no one is in the wrong, or flawed, nobody treated the other badly, or led them on while getting to know them and build a friendship through various communications, WHATEVER the reason - we simply aren't a romantic match. Period.
So, ideally, we should wish each other well, and move along. Consider each encounter like that as one more step on the road to your future! It's PROGRESS!
One big point I want to make - if you do not get a reply online - assume they are not a paying member, therefore, they are unable to reply. Then LET IT GO. Don't automatically think they are rude or find you unattractive. That's actually judging THEM, isn't it?
One saying I've always liked: Sometimes 'rejection is God's protection'
Finally - what or how other people think of me is none of my business. Don't give strangers the power to cause you to feel bad about yourself for any reason. YOU know your worth, you know your strengths - be your biggest cheerleader and get back out there!
do not stay hhome