Discussion related to living as a Catholic in the single state of life. As long as a topic is being discussed from the perspective of a single Catholic then it will be on-topic.
Tobias and Sarah's story is from the Book of Tobit, and his journey is guided by Saint Raphael.
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I acknowledge that - for whatever reason, (usually one can't pinpoint actually WHY) - they do not feel, or I do not find myself feeling - enough of a pull to want to continue exploring a potential / or romantic relationship.
We simply are not attracted to every member of the opposite sex, thank goodness, or things would get very weird. I meet new people constantly, but it's rare for me to feel a spark, or that special pull. It's nobody's fault, no one is in the wrong, or flawed, nobody treated the other badly, or led them on while getting to know them and build a friendship through various communications, WHATEVER the reason - we simply aren't a romantic match. Period.
So, ideally, we should wish each other well, and move along. Consider each encounter like that as one more step on the road to your future! It's PROGRESS!
One big point I want to make - if you do not get a reply online - assume they are not a paying member, therefore, they are unable to reply. Then LET IT GO. Don't automatically think they are rude or find you unattractive. That's actually judging THEM, isn't it?
One saying I've always liked: Sometimes 'rejection is God's protection'
Finally - what or how other people think of me is none of my business. Don't give strangers the power to cause you to feel bad about yourself for any reason. YOU know your worth, you know your strengths - be your biggest cheerleader and get back out there!
That has to be the best response/opinion that I heard ever. I would have to agree your are probably right.
I remember that none of us are truly represented as wonderfully as we come across in real life. That said, rejection is really just a lesson about choosing a bit more wisely down the road. If a response is less than cordial (whether that be in a message or a chat room), I am a firm believer that breathing cleanses those ugly little thoughts of hurt or anger that want to take over breath in slowly through the nose saying Jesus and exhale slowly through the mouth saying Mercy. You will be surprised how quickly the uglies are replaced with the pure joy of the special treasure you know you are inside. After all, you are here to meet that special "one" so when someone is not interested at the start, they were never meant to reside within your heart.
Resilience is key - don't let it get you down! Keep moving and stay confident. Keep trusting that God is guiding you, even if you feel blind - just walk towards His voice.
When I first joined, I thought a non-reply was a rejection. Now, I just consider non-replies the norm here on CM and think nothing of it. As William said, how can it be a rejection if they don't know you? Why should we expect everyone we are interested in to have mutual feelings? My take on that famous expression, "It not me, it's you".
I like what Frank said, "it depends on the amount of investment I have with the person". If you send out an emote (send a message for heaven's sake!), what is that- less than a minute investment? Why moan and sulk over that? But if you have been in conversation with a person for several weeks and they cut off communication though you had a connection, that does hurt and takes time to get over.
While we may be faces and words at first, at every moment we are real human beings with feelings, children of God, and supposed to be brothers and sisters in Christ.