(quote) Kerry-970208 said: To me, this is one of the saddest subjects ever. When I lost my dear husband, nothing cut me to the quick more than to have people go one about how the marriage had ended in his death, that that was it and I would never see him again most likely but wouldn't care because I will be so busy praising God that it won't matter.
This is one of those things that, while it may be so, doesn't really help me to hear right now. I want to see my husband along with my other deceased loved ones when I go to Heaven if I am blessed to do so. I know, I know, I understand the whole "but we won't care " part.........but right now, I DO care, and if I thought I would never ever see my loved ones again, it wouldn't seem very heavenly--and that would include the person I was closest to.
Please read what you write again with what I say in mind. Now I am not saying your situation or anyone's I address particularly but only from the narrow view presented to me. I can't and won't, completely. But generally speaking, you, I and all the rest of us do have to guard carefully not to get carried in our love of neighbor (or spouse) to such an extent that we loose sight of the real beauty of God, or of that which God said. It seems to me that a lot of people do this. I've done it too, but fortunately know better, so I correct more easily. After all, the reason our neighbor, our spouse and all creation is as beautiful as it is, is precisely because it is God's doing. So, therefore we must trust in what God has revealed. Have confidence in it.
Let's not cling to notions that will distract us from God. Sensitivity to neighbor, or to spouse, without it being rooted in the way of God is utter foolishness that will lead us through the valley of death.
Again, I caution you, I am not speaking particularly, but what you allude to brings these thoughts to mind only because you seem to have an attachment to your passed spouse that you won't let go at the possible expense of questioning that which God said. Tread cautiously.
I would love nothing more than you enjoy that beatific vision. Read more about it!