Read about cognitive dissonance. You will get the picture.
Anthony Weiner is a good example.
Also the Zimmerman verdict outrage is another good example of how people, in their own minds will justify anything.
If we are hungry, and food is present, but we can not get the food, we will convince ourselves then, well, I am not really hungry, or well it does not look appetizing, etc.
Nowadays one would be hard pressed to say that the use of social media is the exception; I am more inclined to say that it is the norm. When we make the acquaintance of someone who does not utilize social media in some way shape or form, it is seen as unusual; or in some cases, it can be interpreted as a principled stand against technology replacing the more traditional forms of human interaction i.e.; face to face interaction(s).
Based on data from a poll taken in November 2012, 56% of people acknowledge having a profile set up in the realm of social media. Doing a deeper dive into the numbers of the two most popular social media havens, Facebook has 1.15 billion users, while Twitter has a paltry 500 million users.
The contention is that the use of social media goes hand in hand with the increasing lack of Cognitive dissonance among many users; the theory of Cognitive dissonance was developed by Dr. Leon Festinger in the 1950s. This theory suggests that we (human beings) harbor a desire to keep our attitudes and beliefs in check in an effort to avoid disharmony.
In a nutshell, Cognitive dissonance is that feeling of discomfort as a result of holding two conflicting beliefs, when this comes to pass something must change in order to eliminate the dissonance.
Being connected to one another via social media, Skype and the like is second nature for many of us. So, is it the contention that (no harm no foul) because there isnt that conventional form of face to face human connection in play, that it isnt real?
This is a theme that was cleverly touched on in the laminated Disney movie Wall-E, remember the people on the Axiom? They got everything that they needed with a mere touch of a button; they never had any desire for personal communication. Is this the slippery slope that we are headed down?
So come on lets get those F2F rolling---what if every one paid forward a date?? And here in the Tristate we have the Houston St event in NYC AND the Philly singles event---I pray that there will be a good showing--so people can make there experience more real while mixing and mingling :) I found making friends of the same sex here really does invite a more interesting perspective to share the experience with as well---wing women & wing men can keep things grounded as well as more interesting----Why not make some friends to go out with and meet others? Just my 2 cents.
St Raphael, pray for us!
I could write a book if I really wanted to expound.
I think we really need more f2f; this is what I try to do, my approach.
I use the system CM to filter, scan, review and choose, talk, get to know somewhat, (depends) then talk in person. This is best overall.
Then, depending on how it goes verbally, and consistently, a meeting is almost always due. By then, you should have a good idea of how dependable the person is, articulate, some level of honesty. But then again, it can always be a total flop in person.
I have only met (I have been a member for 1 month) two people. One was completely misleading about her looks, the other was very attractive and wanted to see me again, but she never returned calls or texts.
I think many, many women are still hung up or just wanting attention in their void of being divorced. I dont have time for emotional support. I get that from Jesus, Mary and Joseph.
I find most exaggerate or exacerbate their profile. No one is perfect, but I do think many hold out for that perfect person. Only God is all perfect. You never know, I like meeting people, you can always just be friends and you may make a friend forever................:))
Statistically, out of every 10 I respond to, only about 1.5 responds in varied form and in varied form from my initial contact.
For me, there are just NO available practicing Catholics in my area. Many, many divorced, but to the church, they are still married and most of these are very dishonest about their annulment or dont even think its necessary.
For me its about Sin. I dont want to contribute. I want to save my soul...................
Now I am not pounding on or about women, this is MY perspective and I am sure many women go through the same thing.
For a man, though it is different because the man is the aggressor naturally, so we have to be careful and walk the fine line of what is too soon to meet in person and what is too late to ask....................
Kristen, do you have any suggestions at all for me............??????:)
I hope that I won't be disappointed when we meet face to face & visa versa.Life is too short to be unhappy
My daughter met her Husband on a dating site .It was a good match. When I heard what she had done I was so upset with her--Well guess what! See who is here now!
God help me!
The season of love is upon us.
The heart reawakens
I reclaim my birthright
and take a stand for my own self- worth
and my innate ability to love
and live in the embrace of love.
I have had trouble with love in the past.
I have been disappointed.
My heart has been hurt.
I was once lonely, angry, unhappy, sad, and worried.
I used to believe you cant find true, lasting, soulful love.
But I choose to heal this now.
I choose love and choose to find true love.
I make a new choice to reclaim the innocence of the heart
and reconnect to a deep and soulful love.
-Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway
I know you wrote that for me....
But I can't fly out there til Friday am!
Really though, it IS a decision to heal and grow beyond the anger, fears, and mistrust.
Only then can we choose to love freely and deeply,
knowing that it is a new plunge into a soulful relationship with another and our God.