(quote) Jim-296170 said: I encourage all to stay with CM, even with the low number of matches or responses in your area. CM is just one way that we should be getting ourselves "out there".
We are all looking for the one special person to complete our lives. Only one. Perfect for us. Who knows when, where and how we will find them. Could be on CM tomorrow or two years from now!
I also have to encourage all to include more then just one head shot picture. Digital cameras are in everyone's pocket today. I am not looking for a "barbie", but i am looking for physical attraction. There are a few woman who I am interested in, but afraid to take the next step to contact. It is too hard for me to say "not interested" after a F2F, so I have passed on at least a half dozen attractive women in my area.
It may be that the reason some people don't want to whip out that camera and take a variety of full body shot photos is because they know that the majoirty of guys here are looking for "slender". "athletic", "physically fit (read:slim)", young ladies who may not be Barbie but pretty close. Putting "a few extra pounds", even if true, seems to be a sure way to get zero responses.
And some of the earlier posts on this thread, requesting more "attractive young" women to respond, and then using the word "attractive" again in the same sentence--well, it's fairly obvious what the main area of interest is.
I did a search today and out of the twenty men that came up, 18 were believers in premarital sex, often while claiming their faith was important to them (except, apparently, for that one "little" thing).
Yet, if you took the chance to actually meet some of these other women, you might find someone you really like. Just because someone might have a few extra pounds, doesn't mean they don't care about fitness, are incapable of enjoying an active life, and aren't actively involved in losing weight. Placing all your eggs in one basket (attractive, slender, young, athletic) keeps you from meeting a lot of women who might be a great match for you. And I know many guys who had "trophy wives" and then traded them in for a younger version when they hit their thirties, despite the desperate efforts they made to compete by having plastic surgery, starvation diets, etc.
Take a chance sometime on some not so perfect ladies. I saw a 55 year old man today who declared he was just about ready to "settle down and start a family" at an age when many men are grandfathers and any child they might have after dating, marriage and immediate pregnancy of the wife would result in a child born in their later fifties who there's a good chance they would not even live to see graduate from high school, much less be able to chase after as a toddler, etc, and they would need a woman about 20 years or more their junior to fulfill such a dream. That seems pretty unlikely.
I don't know.....overall I am just not impressed with CM and the matches.