(quote) Cheryl-409772 said: I just think it is time to address this again as it is a hot issue, but I also wanted to take it one step further and address what a difference having this belief makes to dating.
For me this VERY simple. The use of contraceptives is a mortal sin. If my eventual wife thinks that contraceptive use is ok then I would have to be an active participant in the use of contraceptives, or she would have to conceal(lie) to me(her husband) the fact that she was using contraceptives, or I would have to convince her that contraceptive use was a mortal sin. This would likely result in one, or both of use being guilty of mortal sin and in great peril of damnation. Furthermore, I would also be exposing our future children to a false moral teaching(that contraceptives are ok) which could influence them and lead to great risk of their damnation.
The first priority for any christian/Catholic marriage should be to help each other attain heaven, and to guide/help any children toward attaining heaven. I would never consider a woman who thought contraceptive use was ok because I think I owe it to my children to choose a mother who(along with me) would give them the best chance of attaining heaven.