It's all about attitude. If you come into this Site expecting to meet someone you will. Prayers help a lot.
If you are skeptical and impatient it won't happen. At first, I thought I would never meet someone here.
I realize that this is just one of many tools we have to meet someone. Like I said before, it takes a lot
of patience and the ability to not take things too personally. Where else are so many wonderful Catholic Men and Women gathered in one place?
I truly hope I am not being judged by a two dimensional tool. There is just no way you can know anyone by such a brief caption of themselves.
Ultimately, I believe it is what you are willing to put into the search.
I haven't had the experience of very few men writing back. Most respond politely, even if it's with only a thanks for looking at their profile.
To be honest, I wouldn't really want the kind of man that's put off by a woman reaching out first. Yeah, I like strong men who can take charge - and often do - but hopefully they're intelligent enough to realize that an emote is just an emote!
I have been on here for a while, and sometimes the disrespectful behaviours do flare up, and I am not entirely sure what causes it - a mix of personality conflicts, add some sleep-deprived cranky folks, frustration from others, and things blow up. There is only so much that Moderators can do, as people are expected to be old enough to know better in most cases. If Moderators do step in, they get criticized too. It's sort of like the police officer on a street corner when a fight breaks out who takes criticism for not doing enough. What are people doing on the street corner fighting anyway? As for disrespectful behavior online, just go read some of the comments youtube or any site that has celebrity news. People say just about anything hiding behind their keyboard.
I didn't join CM to be a Moderator, I joined CM to find a spouse. I haven't found one. Why am here? Have you seen some of the secular dating sites? I also have had a hard time connecting with other Catholics living in a city where I did not grow up. At least on here, people know that today is a feast day. Have a pleasant evening everyone.
Over my years here I have seen so many discussions similar to this one. (There's not much new under the sun here either-- the same topics tend to come up. I can be kind of comical, and sometimes it is very frustrating.) I try to remind myself that while this may be the 100th time I've seen the discussion there are new voices here that haven't. I need to remember that I may feel like I am repeating myself but the people reading it may not have seen my views before. Sometimes I forget that most of the people in the forums do not know me (there was a time when most knew me pretty well.)
If you are somewhat new to CM (or to the forums), there is a whole world of Catholic singles out there to meet. People do meet, fall in love, and get married from this site-- and even from the forums. Two weekends ago the CM forum community celebrated at least eight members getting married (in one weekend). My Facebook feed was full of well wishes for these couples and "Happy Anniversary" wishes for those who were married in Augusts past. This week I've been seeing CM success stories send off their first children to school. It's a beautiful site to see these happy marriages! The only way it is going to happen for those of us still single is if we meet others. Get out there! Participate, don't anticipate!
How? Pray! Be an active petitioner for your spouse, your future and the spouses of other CMmers! You can do this by spending time in the Prayer Forum (BTW, there have been couples who met there!) You can join in on the weekly Sunday or Tuesday rosary teleconference phone call. (Message me if you need details, but check the thread in the Prayer Forum.) Spend some time in the chat rooms. Take people's interviews. Ask questions. Engage in conversations! Finally, go the events! (Or create your own!!) The CM Indy Crew just launched the event page for the Annual Camp Out in Oct! We'd love to see new members come, as well as meet up with our known dear friends! We have the best time!! (You never know who you might meet! I met my last boyfriend at last year's Camp out. While we are no longer together, I still think it was the perfect setting for a budding romance. Maybe I have the right event, just the wrong man.:scratchingchin:)
So, let's do less hemming and hawing about the things that aren't working, and do something that is. K?
If you need any proof of this, at one point, you could see how many threads and messages were posted in the men's and women's forums. The women's room had six times more of each.
Men wonder why women don't respond (and, I can certainly attest, oh so, so, so few do) / why they don't agree to go out / why they don't agree to go out again.
Everyone wonders why everyone else poofs.
I simply have a hard time believing this litany of woes adds up to a more favored position for either gender. This is simply an irascibly tough business for everyone.