(quote) Tom-975374 said: ... Where's God?
The absolute #1 is to love Jesus Christ with all your heart and soul, and to bring your family to Heaven with you. Everything else will fall into place, as Our Lord promised.
I hate to sound flippant and rude and elitist, but perhaps if he recognized that he wouldn't be divorced and making lists about how to stay married. I mean it's all good stuff but it's meaningless without reference to God, the sacraments and prayer. Love your wife for love of God; strive to be a saint; cultivate the virtues together; pray together. With all that, you'll be ticking every box in the list. And if you don't, at least you'll be virtuous enough to know that on this earth all states of life have their burdens and crosses - and with a good prayer life you'll be able to offer it up. Without it, you'll be in misery wishing your wife/husband ticked all the boxes and divorce will be near. "Seek ye first the kingdom of God" as Our Lord said. Marry someone because you love them enough to want to help them get to Heaven - that's what makes a marriage last. Cute and romantic things are awesome and should be done, but if that's all your marriage is built on you'll run out of steam.
Oh and that last part is a bit crude. Of course, it's true... but no woman should ever speak about that stuff with anybody else, never mind boast about it. It also gives the impression that sex within marriage hinges on how much pleasure you can give each other. You won't believe how many good Catholics fall into the secular trap and start panicking because they aren't immediately finding that sex is like a life-solving wonder-drug. Best leave all this stuff between husband and wife.
Catholics are made aware that it's three to get married,God ,husband and wife.It's good to get these practical nitty gritty to make it work.