Not having known the author's background, I read with the understanding that even if he was a Christian he was possibly writing without the mention of God to appeal to a larger audience. How many people of other faiths or without faith would have taken the article as much to heart if they knew it was from a specifically Christian perspective (and, therefore, would not think it applied to them if they do not believe in a Trinitarian God)?
Even though, as someone earlier suggested, this might give the impression of keeping a check list, wouldn't it be better if more people followed this advice at least in practice? The habit of doing good for one another could then lead to a conversion of the heart; truly loving and being self giving! The world would be a better place for it!
Think about it this way; even though we, as Christians, know we're supposed to love everyone and do what's right, we don't always FEEL like it because people hurt us or we sometimes have selfish tendencies. But even when we don't FEEL like doing what's right, we can still CHOOSE to do what's right. Then hopefully our feelings will catch up with us, but at the very least we are making a habit of choosing God's way over our our way; our feelings are fickle, but God's love is constant and unconditional.
So for those who live by another faith or are unbelievers, if the author could at least have them evaluate how they live then perhaps they would start making a habit of choosing to do what's right even when they don't feel like it. Before too long, those habits become internalized changes of heart where people more easily choose the better part and do so genuinely for the good of the other. Even for people who don't know God, I think this could lead them to Him; if they're being as loving as they know how I don't know how they could not come to know love and God is love! It's just like in the Gospels, Jesus met people where they were and gave them the opportunity to follow him; God works in many and mysterious ways and His timing is perfect. Perhaps others who read this article need to put these things into practice before they'll be ready to accept Jesus, whereas if they saw God mentioned they wouldn't have given any of it a second thought.
Who are we to judge the author, his wife, his intent, or anyone who reads it? Maybe he purposely wrote it the way he did because that's how God wanted him to write it!
The author, whether he be Christian or no, has stumbled upon the proper Christian attitude of a man towards his wife, uncannily echoing thoughts found in Theology of the Body. The man is to lead in love... allowing his wife to totally trust him, opening herself up into that life giving sharing so inherent in her nature. I know I for one would be willing to sacrifice all for a man who held me with that kind of esteem...
It would be very nice to see the corresponding article for women. We bear equal responsibility in self surrender for our unions. Anyone know where to find it?
Thanks Johnny, for posting such an inspiring article...