Sheila - I used to have your viewpoint. I've changed my mind. Here's why:
There are some on here who subscribe for a year or half-year and are active. There are some who let their subscription continue and don't use the site. There are still others who who subscribe for one month, let it lapse and then join a few months later for a month. In this light, the best basis for deciding who to engage with communication wouldn't be their payment status. The best basis would be their level of engagement of the fantastic resources available here at CM.
Rather than focus on whether someone is a dues paying member, may I suggest that you use the search engine to consider looking for someone who has been active in the last 30, 60 or 90 days? This may satisfy some of your concerns about who is more active and who is less active. As you scroll through these search options, you also will find other ways to set parameters for your search, by interest or location or other means.
(Correct me if I'm wrong, Jerry, but is it possible to search by common interest, too, like "camping" or "tennis"?)
Sheila - and maybe this is a tip for the CM marketing team - CM isn't like the other sites where you punch in a few buttons and find out quickly who is active, who isn't and whether to plunk down $20 and write someone.
CM is about interaction - relationships - friendships - and education. It's more than just a "dating site" (and I really am glad to see the CM Institute forming because the forums are sooo educational). What I have come to see is that this place isn't just interested in my money but also the education of my mind and, particularly, with regard to having quality friendships.
The Temperament Test is probably one of the best features on here because it teaches each of us to learn how to develop a quality relationship with each other.
Please try to see CM as a place that gives you more tools to make more quality friends and - if the Lord wills it - someone special in your life.