If your spouse couldn't be true to God, why would he be true to you?
I always thought that about Bill Clinton's presidency. Folks said he was a good president in spite of his marital infidelities. My thought was that if he couldn't be true to Hillary, with whom he had a child, why would he be true to me, whom he never even met.....then again, maybe it was "getting to know Hillary" that was the catalyst.................c'mon, take a joke
Go and sin no more people.
Much Agape Love to All
It's not easy if one or both are NOT focused on God.
I think it's IMPOSSIBLE for those who think contraception AND pre-marital sex is ok. If you think it fine, you'll do it.
I don't waste time with non 7/7's, and if a 7/7 has lied about it, later suggesting it's ok, baby I'm gone! NO SEX throughout the relationship before marriage, period!!!
Personally, I think that if a couple or even just either one, enter the marriage with mortal sin on their souls AT THE TIME OF MARRIAGE then the sacrament cannot take hold. Both are required to be in a state of grace at the moment for it to be valid; that's my understanding.
Pre-marital sex is a mortal sin; it's not in agreement with Christ's teaching; if as an adult (baptized) Catholic one still doesn't get this (male or female), I don't want to take the time to teach you, but especially debate it. Such should get with the Church teaching or stay out.
And, get a different confessor if your priest is telling you it's ok; it's not!,br>
So, in a nutshell, easy or difficult, you have to be able to set sex aside prior to marriage, otherwise guess what, can we say MORTAL SIN? And where does that get ya'? Trust me, there is a HELL!!!
Priests are who we look to for guidance and support when we do fall not for condemnation and ridicule.
Example: If my daughter came home pregnant I certainly would NOT send her away in shame. I may not be happy about it but I would try to be understanding and help them through it. That is what Jesus teaches. We are to lift each other up in love......condemnation does not work, in fact it has an opposite effect many times.
Men have been mentioned a few times as the ones who will not marry someone with whom they have not had sex. I have been in several conversations with women who say the same thing.
I've encountered women who got very angry when the topic of a chaste relationship came up. So all it cost me to avoid that headache was the price of a cup or coffee or Thai meal. Lessons learned.