I maintain that the more actively you use this site, the more communication you will receive. Of course, we have to send out communication. It's not really quid pro quo, but there is a relationship between the two. I wouldn't get as much as I do if I didn't also send out stuff.
I get your garden variety blank emote hellos from far, far away. I get very little local communication (not even blank emotes), not even responses to my unsolicited messages. I get out of the blue emails from newer members who see my comments and want to share something or ask a question. I get emails asking for information about the rosary call. I sometimes get emails and emotes from friends just checking in, but most of that is done off site. And every once in awhile a member from way back when arrives back on CM and sends me a note-- those are great joys!
I've learned the fine art of sending pithy messages that compel a response. I've even had a few men tell me that they had to join to read the message I sent. (I've enjoyed getting to know them, but I haven't had one of them step up and ask to meet me for a date. Those men are rare (the ones who tell me they pay up) and rarer is the man (or woman, I think) who will then meet.
The main thing I learned a long time ago is not to limit myself to only entertaining the communication with the men I consider possible as my husband. I've met fabulous friends this way while we all search for our spouse.