One of the caveats of this, and really any dating site, is that people lose interest, or maybe get into a relationship, but they leave their profiles up. I know its frustrating for members, especially new members, who come here with the expectation that every profile they see is somebody who is in the same place, actively seeking at this very moment. Sadly, this just isn't the case.
One final thought... we hear a lot "if only there was a way to tell the paying members from the non-members". The however to that is just because you know somebody is a paying member is no certainty that you'll get a response from them, nor is it a given that just because somebody is not a paying member that you won't get a reply... they might just be on the fence about rejoining, and it may be your contact that gets them to ante up and do so. Main lesson is: don't take it personally if somebody doesn't reply, because you don't really know what is going on in their life at this point in time.
I think persons need to take at face value the data (or lack thereof) that comes with every profile. You are not alone in making presumptions in regards to the non "ACTIVE" status. Many have convinced themselves or are convinced by flawed posts by others of similar things that you write about; It's mostly not true. Do not take my words too harshly, I think your heart is in the right place, but you don't have clarity. I will address the "why" in a following post.
Perhaps getting a "help ticket" answer from the staff written by someone who doubts my reasoning but wants to get to the bottom of it may clear much of this up. Clarity is good :)
In defense of site management and the mods, it is not their job to scrub postings of falsehoods.
Michael, what I write below is not directed at you, let me be clear about that. Ok? It's just me getting on my soapbox...
I admit, I get tired of the blind leading the blind here. It is just me as I have seen all kinds of diversions (blind men and women) cross my path, sometimes taking me with them.
Have we ever physically followed a blind person to live like they do? Often, they are deaf too. What do we discern? We appreciate the gift of sight (and hearing) more, don't we?!
Ok, but have we followed a spiritually blind person? This is much, much, much more of a concern. We must ask ourselves often: where will this get me/us?
We must follow the teachings and the Light left by Christ; The Vicar of Christ is the portal, directed to Mary, who in turn directs us to Christ. The Vicar designates the Magisterium to safeguard and preserve the full deposit of the true faith for the Church and all humanity. However, we must will it, follow it... baptism, communion, confession, reparation (penance, penance, penance), confirmation and never cease in our desire to be with Christ lest he know us not...