(quote) Mary-976718 said:
Does anyone have any experience with this? This is what I've found so far.Q. 9) What about the case of a Catholic who had a previous marriage but not in the church?
Such an attempted marriage is not seen as a true marriage in the eyes of the church. Catholics are expected to be married according to the rules of the church. This is called a Lack of Form
case. The marriage lacked the Catholic form
of marriage. If a Catholic was in a previous marriage, but not in the church and now wants to remarry in the church, he/she must petition our marriage tribunal for a Lack of Form
case. This involves obtaining an updated baptism certificate, a legally certified copy of one's marriage and divorce papers. Then, the petitioner fills out a one-page questionnaire. The parish mails the forms and documents to the Marriage Tribunal and the Lack of Form
case is automatically granted about one month later. (http://www.ascensioncatholic.net/TOPICS/family/marriage/AnnulmentQnA.html)
Any comments on that first sentence? "Such an attempted marriage is not seen as a true marriage in the eyes of the church. " I'd love to find more credible evidence that this is correct.
I was Catholic at the time of my "legal joining." It was a civil ceremony, he was Catholic too and had been married before in the Catholic Church. It was a huge mistake, and I got out fast. I went to my priest two years later and filled out the paperwork, provided my documentation and 3 weeks later received my official non-recognition of my marriage. How is that different from a decree of nullity I'm not sure. The simple fact is this; it was not a valid Catholic marriage due to the two grounds (civil marriage and he had a valid Catholic marriage to his first wife). WE WERE NEVER MARRIED!
It was not necessary for me to wait for a tribunal to tell me my marriage was not valid and that I should wait for the decree. I do not presume things above me or outside of my intelligence level, however things that are within my knowledge and wisdom are certainly within my realm to use to make decisions whether to date or not.
Sometimes people strain a gnat and swallow the camel.