(quote) Suzanne-930338 said: Paul,
I so agree with you. I see this over and over in these forums. I am sad to say that it doesn't matter if it's women or men, Not only are dissent about premarital relations an issue, but acceptance of the Church's teaching about contraception is a big one too. Finally, another area of concern is the number of divorced persons without annulments looking for a friend, companion or anoher spouse on this site.
A male friend of mine (here on CM) did a personal survey looking at men and women in "our age group." That roughly means folks in their 50's. He noted that almost 60 % of men are divorced without annulments, and just over 60% of the women are divorced w/out annulments. Keep in mind, I personally have no problem with folks who are in the process of annulments being on the site if they are using it as a means of support to stay on track through the process, participate in forums and gather insight as they transition during this time of their lives. However, being divorced (w/out an annulment) and dating (in any form) is not congruent with the Church's teaching.
We will always have members who dissent against a "few," "some," or "all," of the Church's teachings. Quite frankly, living an authentic Catholic life can be a bittersweet pill to follow. It takes a lot of humility, courage, and supernatural grace to live as an authentic Catholic. Many of my work colleagues, casual acquatainces, and even family members have no understanding of the path that I have chosen. I spend alot of time explaining to people why I live the way that I do, and why being an "authentic" Catholic woman is so important to me.
Those of us seeking God's will and who are open to Holy Matritmony with a Catholic spouse have a small pool of candidates. I have said this before and I will repeat it here. A few years ago I spoke with my brother about my hopes for finding a man to marry. He told me, "Suzanne, your pond is small and poorly stocked!" I know that if it is God's will for me I will have an faithful and faith-filled Catholic imperfect husband some day. My job is to be faithful and faithfilled (in my own imperfect way,) to not compromise, and to not fall into despair. I have to let God be God, and me be me. So I try my best to live one day at a time, one kind word at a time, and share the Good News with those around me. You and I both know that it's easier said than done. If it was easy we wouldn't have these Forum topics! God Bless You!
You know Suzanne, when it comes from your own family, ie. your brother, it really hurts. It seems traitorous somehow.